Hi All,

I am suffering from a problem for last 3 months my office hours are 7.30 to 4.30. So everyday after 4.30 I get to my room at around 5.30 - 6.00pm. So I share my room with three room-mates. My both friends office hours are from 10.30 to 7.30. So get they home around 9 - 10pm.

In-between I have 3 to 4 hours time to myself. I know that time is very precious time. But during this time I watch sex videos and pron sites.This past month it happens daily, but I want to control myself.

Please give me suggestions . How do I over come this problem. Please help me.

asked 27 Mar '13, 03:18

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edited 27 Mar '13, 04:30

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Barry Allen ♦♦

You are in a porn video business and asking us for advice?

Thus is more for spiritual questions.

(27 Mar '13, 03:28) Wade Casaldi

@Navadeep i like the question " how can i control my thoughts?" but i don't see the connection about enjoying sex videos, sexuality is a healthy activity, please clarify what exactly you desire to control, in the mean time, have fun :)

(27 Mar '13, 03:51) ru bis

The problem is not the porn you're watching in that time. But the moral doubts behind it. Well porn is not a question of morality. It's a question of well-being. And time's not "precious", in fact it matters only to those who are afraid.

(27 Mar '13, 03:52) CalonLan

I don't see where Navadeep said they worked in a porn video business just an office , do I need spectacles ?

(27 Mar '13, 03:57) Starlight

What would you rather be doing?

(27 Mar '13, 04:15) flowsurfer

What, can't peeps who work in the porn industry have issues? Geez!~

(27 Mar '13, 04:18) ele

@ele, they wouldn't be in porn industry if they didn't have issues to start with. LOL

(27 Mar '13, 04:25) CalonLan

@Starlight I think it is part of my dyslexia. Jai catches me a lot of times reading words that are not there. That can at times it can make what I read and what is printed two different things. That is also why sometimes Jai reads an answer of mine and says to me, that is a good answer but it is to a completely different question! lol then those times I end up deleting my answer. Sorry...

I do that reading books at times too.

(27 Mar '13, 09:16) Wade Casaldi

It's all fine @Wade , I have a son with same , just thought momentarily I was going bonkers, you know seeing things that aren't there, Sort of hilarious actually because today I listened to a Bashar clip and at the end thought he said " oh and by the way it's all untrue " , I listened to this whole clip about 12 mins,3 times over and last time thought, nah, he said something else, and turns out he said " oh and by the way pleasant dreams" ;-)

(27 Mar '13, 09:38) Starlight

@Starlight lol we all make those mistakes at times!

(27 Mar '13, 11:32) Wade Casaldi

@Navadeep The best solution would be to just chill and relax about it like already suggested. But if it makes you feel miserable despite all efforts to relax, try webfilters and dump the password or give it to a friend http://www1.k9webprotection.com/

(27 Mar '13, 14:50) releaser99

Thanks for all answering me. Any way i will follow the steps and procedures from today on wards.

(28 Mar '13, 05:10) Navadeep
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@Navadeep couple questions. Do you feel that the watching of sex is bad?
Is it the sex or the treatment of people in the pro.n industry that make you not like it? There is a saying "If you can't take the heat get out of the kitchen" Pron can be addicting as sex can be. what are you using the time that you are alone and watching pron to escape?
That is the issue, the pro.n is just a symptom. (yes I know how it's spelled just want to keep the crawlers away)


answered 27 Mar '13, 03:59

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Ursixx , momentarily I didn't "get" the crawlers reference , in future I think for me a chess piece makes a great substitute , never entered my head about bots ;-)

(27 Mar '13, 04:13) Starlight

I had to read this 3 times before I got it!

(27 Mar '13, 04:21) ele

@ursixx, crawlers lol..but why? Maybe they come here and get enlightened haha.

(27 Mar '13, 04:26) CalonLan

I am not feel watching sex is bad. but mostly i wasted time. i have a laptop and internet connection in my room. every time i convince myself i am not doing bad. but that is bad thing. Actully i have goal to become a good software engineer. now i am working as a software developer at one company they paid me 15000 per month. But i am not concentrate on my goal. I fell some fear also. my qustion is how will i stop that things and how to track my concentration on my goal.? my age is 23 years.

(27 Mar '13, 04:31) Navadeep

@Navadeep So after working 8-9 hours you come home and wish to work more. Those 4 hours you have to yourself to do what you want. And for the past few months its been adult entertainment,not working more towards your goal. Relax Navadeep! What good is a goal if you can't have some distraction along the way? It doesn't sound like you have forgotten or given up the goal....

(27 Mar '13, 09:36) ursixx

-... BUT if you think that the adult internet is a problem. Take a walk ,take a book to a park. Get back to "real life". Sit in a cafe enjoy the world going by.Spend 3-4 hours here on IQ reading. If you think you are over the line between use and abuse then you probably are. You need to ask yourself .. Is this what I am doing abuse am I out of control?

(27 Mar '13, 09:43) ursixx
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"How to stop thinking about sex" by "wikiHow to do anything" may help.

They propose 8 steps

1-understand that there is nothing wrong about sex

2-know your triggers

3-develop your willpower

4-sublimate your urges

5-distract yourself with other activities

6-don't leave too much idle time in your schedule

7-tell someone about your problem

8-if all else fails, try to think of something decidedly unsexy

here's the reference;


relax, be cool :)


answered 27 Mar '13, 14:17

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ru bis

@ru bis : I love lists.

(28 Mar '13, 02:36) ursixx

@ursixx haha, you noticed

(28 Mar '13, 02:53) ru bis

I think this is a very difficult thing to do.

To help you i would give just one very small piece of advice.

"Dont be hard on yourself if you fail....its cool...your human" Thats all.


answered 27 Mar '13, 15:53

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Monty Riviera

edited 27 Mar '13, 15:58

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