I make a lot of requests stating my fears and things that i'm afraid of as well as the stuff I would like to have.Does the Universe handle your fears or does it give you what you don't want when you include stuff you don't want to happen in your requests. I wrote this question because I myself am afraid that I might be doing something wrong by telling my worst fears to the universe. When ever I write a request I include stuff that I don't want to happen but I make it clear that it's what i'm afraid of. I use words like "I'm afraid this will happen " or "I don't want this to happen" ect... I know we usually try to focus on what we want but don't you need to address your fears in order to reach a better state? I understand that the universe does not judge our wishes. But is it also possible that it can take care of your fears or does it just give you the exact thing your afraid of? I would love to hear from the members of inward quest on this topic. I would appreciate any answer or thoughts.

Thank you

asked 15 Oct '13, 13:46

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Jacob Ford

I love this question because it makes you pay attention to your feelings. I am so new at this and all I have is my feelings to work with at this moment so I try my best to remember that my ultimate goal NOW is to feel good every day, one day at a time. I still need lots of help and encouragement to do this because God knows I have suffered needlessly in the past. The very first thing I needed to do before I could move forward is to face my fears and take 100% responsibility for them. Continue..

(16 Oct '13, 09:11) petitesweetyme

I continue to do this with much resistance to change yet I know that without change I cannot move to that place of freedom and Love I have been searching for all my life. It took me a long time to get here and it will take some time and effort on my part to heal. The good news is we have free will to feel however we want and every process is different for each of us. I just know without a doubt whatever I choose to feel now will come back to me, so today I choose to give and feel love and it...

(16 Oct '13, 09:19) petitesweetyme

Is working like nothing ever did before.. all the answers for anything I have found in my heart chakra. My mind is aligning with this the more I choose to follow my good feelings about any issue in my life. The answer to everything is Love. Love will open the doors to all my desires I know this now and it is so simple and Powerful. When I give Love I have no fear, it is a choice. I fall and get back up with Love then I fall less. It is a beautiful gift from the Universe. LOVE!

(16 Oct '13, 09:27) petitesweetyme

@petitesweetyme, very nice! you are on a great track! thats it you have found the Truth

(16 Oct '13, 13:12) abrahamloa
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The universe says "YES" to every single thing that you put your focus and attention on. When you are putting your focus on fearful things, you are emitting a fearful vibration to the universe and since everything goes in this existence of total allowance, you will be matched up to a similar fearful frequency.

Since the universe always says Yes, saying things like "I don't want (particular situation) to happen" - the universe removes the word don't and only focus on the fearful vibration of what your "particular situation" is. Your vibration is the only thing that is being put into play here.

It seems to me that you are trying to justify where you are to get to where you want to be. Almost as if you are letting the universe know what you don't want so you can get what you do want. There is no need to do this. The universe already knows what you do and don't want. There was a time when I would justify fearful things a lot as well and always wondered why I kept seeing fear based or undesirable results.

I wrote this question because I myself am afraid that I might be doing something wrong by telling my worst fears to the universe.

You can't really ever do anything wrong. This life is simply about experience and growth. The universal consciousness already know your fear and your desires. It's not like if you keep your mouth shut in a secretive way the universe will never find out :-)

The things in life that you fear are always trying their best to get as far away from you as they can and the things that you desire are always trying their hardest to get to you in any way possible. We push the good things away and attach the unwanted things to us because of our definitions and beliefs.

Fear is only a term used because you have labeled or another person has labeled something with a definition that you don't prefer but you still hold a strong belief that (insert fear here) is real and true. If you start changing those beliefs and definitions, eventually the fear will dissolve depending on the intensity of your new belief.

For example: You say, "I have a fear of not having enough money to pay the bills."

You let the universe know this over and over and hold that fearful vibration. You continue to not have enough money to pay the bills. Your fearful vibration matches numerous parallel versions of you fearing not having money to pay the bills and it seems to go on and on.

Then you decide to change your statement to something like, "I always have an abundance of money when I need it because this is a supportive universe."

If you can affirm the second statement (or whatever positive statement fits your fear) more and get into a habit of feeling good when you say it, and have it become your new belief, your vibration of having what you desire will match up to a physical manifestation that is just sitting there and waiting for you to claim it.

The less attention you put on the fear, the more it will dissolve away until one day you will not even experience it in your reality anymore.

Sometimes when a fear comes into our experience we just need to observe it in a neutral fashion with no beliefs that cause a negative emotion or reaction. Those emotional reactions are what causes the fear to continue to occur over and over again in different forms and identities.

So to sum this all up...

Putting attention on what you don't want or fear will bring that into your experience.

Putting attention on what you do want and makes you feel good/empowered will bring that into your experience.

There is no need whatsoever to justify things that you don't prefer to experience. It's all just a simple choice. Choose to focus on what you prefer.


answered 15 Oct '13, 15:26

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edited 15 Oct '13, 15:30


Wow, fantastic answer, Cory. Thank you so much for this, it's exactly what I needed to hear!

(16 Oct '13, 08:52) Bedazzled

Thank you. This helped me to take a good look at myself and make some changes.

(16 Oct '13, 11:14) Jacob Ford

@Cory, you're right on! Excellently simplified.

(16 Oct '13, 15:19) figure8shape

As usual, this is an excellent answer @Cory & you articulated this in a very simple & user friendly way. We're all so fortunate to have you here. Thank you.

(16 Oct '13, 21:43) ele

Like it was said in the book "Dune" . Fear is a mind killer. @Cory.You know how in other forums they have answers that are "sticky" , all ways on top. This answer is very sticky ;)

(16 Oct '13, 23:39) ursixx

I like how people interpret it's the universe not them who make things happen. How human kind indulges in perpetuating their own insignificance in so many subtle ways.

(18 Oct '13, 09:30) CalonLan

@Bedazzled @Jacob Ford @figure8shape I appreciate the kind words. Glad I could help.

(18 Oct '13, 12:19) Cory

Thank you @ele. I'm glad to be here and fortunate to have everyone else's different viewpoints to think over as well.

(18 Oct '13, 12:22) Cory

@ursixx Thanks.

"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

Never heard this before. I like it. Thanks for sharing!

(18 Oct '13, 12:24) Cory

@CalonLan Humans...what are we to do with these "universe touting" creatures. I guess it's expected though from such a densely vibrating species. Thanks for pointing this out to me :-)

(18 Oct '13, 12:33) Cory

@Cory - Thank you for this excellent answer. It is perfect timing, as life is changing for me quite a bit at the moment, enough to have my head spinning ~ a major clattering experience. The only thing I am really sure of is that I don't want to feed my fear of the unknown, of uncertainty. It's been unfolding all week, and IQ has been such a blessing. This morning, I'd set aside all of the convoluted thoughts, and had got it all boiled to simple fear.... Logged on and found this. :) :) :)

(18 Oct '13, 13:57) Grace
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you need to understand how the whole Universe works and how by coming in alignment with Cosmic laws and leading your life that way, you will able to get over your fears and live your life with passion, joy , peace etc. You need to know this in theory and then practice is and experience it to some extent when you start to trust the system and only then for certain your fears can be thrown away. till then its like you still dont know whats going to happen. And you are trying things out. Its great because you have started that journey!! So pretty soon you will be more in control. So i urge you to study the Spiritual principles and apply them in your life. Read different books and listen to different authors. then you may resonate with some and then implement their teachings.

If you study Abraham Hicks or Bashar they will tell you just follow your joy and passion however small it is and not worrying is good enough. everythying will be perfect. So try to implement that. What do you love doing and gives you happiness??? Do that a little bit everyday and you will find that for that 1 hr or 2 hrs etc you will be immersed and forget about everything else. Thats where you want to be.

If you study deepak Chopra he may say be silent for 20 mins meditate. Do it everyday for some time. Jesus said to compassionate and loving to all irrespective of how the other person is.

bottom line pick different tools from all the different masters and start apply ones you like. Be easy and patient. YOU WILL START TO SEE teh DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE> then you form the trust and your fears will be gone. these teachings are Universal TRUTHS that work for sure for sure for sure. these masters are not kidding for 1 bit!

so for now my advice is to read, learn, listen and apply teachings!! Dont focus too much on your manifestations right now since you may have mix with yoru fears. try to focus on being easy in life, enjoying life etc. everythign is perfect. Best of Luck


answered 15 Oct '13, 20:44

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I like this ... I agree, he needs to take it slow & easy Lighten up & to quote you @abrahamloa "try to focus on being easy in life, enjoying life etc. everything is perfect." Have fun @Jacob "All is well, All is perfect, as are YOU, Jacob." The Universe does NOT make 'junk'.

(16 Oct '13, 21:46) ele

@Barry Allen -- the word I just used? Perhaps another word which could possibly be 'white' listed, don't you think? 4 letters starting with 'c' ending with 'p' plus an 'r' & an 'a'. Yes, it did get hashed prior to posting - I posted it w/o correcting to see if it would be hashed or deleted. Thank you.

(16 Oct '13, 21:52) ele

@ele LOL ah I see now you were first! Yes agreed that should be white listed since it has been used on network TV unedited for many years, unless we go back to the 60's

(05 Nov '13, 16:28) Wade Casaldi

@Wade That word was on a black list in 1960's? lol Simon said no & gave his reasons for doing so - but he did whitelist the words sex and porn when I asked.

(05 Nov '13, 18:20) ele
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perhaps it be more effective
use of creative energy,
to look inward at this vision of fear
until you see a way to smoothe it out


answered 16 Oct '13, 05:56

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You cannot make the leap from fearfulness to unstoppable confidence in one step. What I found helpful was Abraham's Emotional Guidance Scale:

  1. Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
  2. Passion
  3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  4. Positive Expectation/Belief
  5. Optimism
  6. Hopefulness
  7. Contentment
  8. Boredom
  9. Pessimism
  10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  11. Overwhelment
  12. Disappointment
  13. Doubt
  14. Worry
  15. Blame
  16. Discouragement
  17. Anger
  18. Revenge
  19. Hatred/Rage
  20. Jealousy
  21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

Always reach for the next higher feeling or 2 on the scale, if you are feeling fearful, get guilty, or jealous! I like to work all the way up to anger in this case! Maybe you could start with feeling guilty about feeling fearful, then jealous of those who don't have this fear, etc ....

Take ONE step at a time. Eventually you'll get there, and then you won't have to feel guilty about thinking fearful or other negative thoughts! :)

Good Luck! The Universe is conspiring to shower you with blessings.


answered 16 Oct '13, 19:29

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Beach Baby

edited 16 Oct '13, 19:30

Yes, the emotional guidance scale has been posted a hundred times on this site & it cannot be repeated enough. People who are new to this site would benefit greatly by searching tags & using the Google search bar in the upper right hand corner of every page. There are so many tools and so much info posted & it's only a click away.

(16 Oct '13, 21:56) ele

I really like this image of the EGS, showing the upward & downward spirals.

(16 Oct '13, 21:56) ele

Often times visual people resonate more with a picture than with words.

... and the gold standard image from 'Ask & It is Given' posted repeatedly by @Stingray

For further info & explanations, search tags & use the Google search bar.

(16 Oct '13, 21:58) ele

@Barry Allen Why are the images I added to my comments under this answer so large? I took the images from IQ.

The first one from this link


..and the second one from here


Could you downsize the images for me?

(17 Oct '13, 18:02) ele

@ele yes posting about emotional scale more than 100 times is good!! esp when you are at bottom its good to know i need to go only 1 step above! thats good enough! step by step!

(17 Oct '13, 21:02) abrahamloa

@abrahamloa Absolutely & why I said "it (EGS) cannot be repeated enough" in addition to posting images. There are so many great links here which provide further explanation if someone is new to the LOA. Thanks.

(17 Oct '13, 21:29) ele
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There are many really good & useful answers already posted here that I agree with.

I would like to reiterate what both @Cory & @abrahamloa said - please don't be so hard on yourself. Take it easy & have fun. Enjoy Life.

As @Cory said, there is no right or wrong.

Labels are judgments.

Judgments are limiting & what we want is expansion & 'flow'.

In addition to agreeing with what other members have already said; I would like to put the emphasis on feelings and emotions & how it's the 'feeling' which is the real secret behind the LOA & manifesting what you desire.

Our world is made up of vibrations.

Vibrations are the same as feelings.

We vibrate our feelings, whatever the frequency - low (fear) or high (love), for better or for worse.

However, if every thought I (we) have or had, became an instant manifestation, the earth probably would have exploded by now or at the very least, fallen off its axis.

It's the 'feeling' behind the thought which brings the manifestation & I believe the emphasis should be on this.

For more information on this, look at @releaser 's answer here


Here are a couple more links with answers by Stingray which I think you may find helpful & provide further clarification.



This answer is marked "community wiki".

answered 16 Oct '13, 22:24

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edited 16 Oct '13, 23:22

My quick answer is that you should ONLY speak of the things that you desire in the present tense. Sounds simple but truly having command over your mouth is a discipline all should master.


answered 12 Nov '13, 11:48

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what is fear? is it something negative? Does it have a purpose? does it have its place in your life? fear protect you and warn you of danger or things that you do not like or do not want to happen. the only thing to fear is fear its self. if fear is part of your experience is it not opportunity to experience it and learn from it?


or maybe you fear that it will change your plan. yes that could happen things change in this world. so expect the unexpected. do not make plan to far a head, let tomorrow worry about it self. you do not know where to start or how to begin, start at the beginning know yourself. you see some dirt in the cup, clean the inside of the cup. when the inside of the cup is clean enough you will truly see and start to walk on your own water, once born of water when there is nothing false in you, you will start to see the living one that you are that little light of yours. when all the division are solved in you the water and the light will become one. you will be in spirit and truth made in is image then with out fear you can cross the last narrow door and go above to the kingdom of the peacemakers and with a pure heart meet the one that sent you.

Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.

will you enter the ark side by side as one? or will you be divided in you self and not able to enter the ark?

But you, brethren, are not in darkness, that the day would overtake you like a thief; for you are all sons of light and sons of day. We are not of night nor of darkness; so then let us not sleep as others do, but let us be alert and sober.…

Why would you choose to be divided and live in darkness? When you can choose to be united and live in the light?

are you afraid of your own shadow? are you afraid of death?

the dead are not alive and the living will not die. If you keep my word you will never taste death.

What did I tell you to do? Do it.

Behold, I lay in Zion a chief cornerstone, chosen, and precious: He who believes in him will not be disappointed." For you therefore who believe is the honor, but for such as are disobedient, "The stone which the builders rejected, Has become the chief cornerstone," and, "A stone of stumbling, and a rock of offense." For they stumble at the word, being disobedient, whereunto also they were appointed. But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God's own possession, that you may show forth the excellency of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.

John 10, verse 8 to 12 Here it is written: All who came before me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep didn't listen to them. I am the door. If anyone enters in by me, he will be saved, and will go in and go out, and will find pasture.

update: will also add would you not be hypocrite to hide your fear from your self or to hide them from God and all your brother and sister in heaven? where nothing is hidden from any one really would that help you out? or would it only divide you more?

Know what is in front of your face, and what is hidden from you will be disclosed to you.

For there is nothing hidden that will not be revealed. [And there is nothing buried that will not be raised.]

Let there be light, be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy.


answered 16 Oct '13, 23:31

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white tiger

edited 12 Nov '13, 14:54


great clip @whitetiger

(19 Oct '13, 02:46) ursixx
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