I've found myself rather disturbed recently by a very sweet gentle male friend (I am a single female) who is going after a woman I know who has a difficult personality and throws anger tantrums at other people but who acts very sweetly with this man and he has no clue about this. Within a couple of days of finding out about this, a similar situation came up with another friend going after a woman whom I find cold and uncaring. I know that I'm more triggered by this than other friends as a single woman, but some of my married friends are also worried about these men. I wanted to speak to at least the first one and let him know what I know about the woman, but others have to told me that it is none of my business and I shouldn't interfere. I'm also worried about the woman's wrath if she finds out I've said anything. Is there anything else that I can do? I feel it's so unjust for the poor guy to end up with a woman like that. It makes me feel there is no justice in the Universe. Can I send him some kind of thought message, or is this really none of my business and for the Universe/God to sort out?

asked 17 Nov '13, 19:26

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Inner Beauty

edited 17 Nov '13, 19:27


I'm putting this in the comments because it is not an actual answer. Men have a natural mechanism that makes them almost blind to moral defects in women. This is why jails are mostly populated by men. The reason is simple: in biological terms, females are the essential building blocks of a species while males are disposable support units. Men have a submissive perspective towards women. Don't even bother trying to convince a man that a woman is no good, as a rule men only judge other men.

(20 Nov '13, 16:55) flowsurfer

@flowsurfer interesting one.

(20 Nov '13, 21:39) PERFECT GOOD
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What about trying to play with your perceptions of these women. Instead of defining them as cold, uncaring and difficult. Maybe you could see them as sweet, kind and warm, just like you, but maybe struggling with a few issues that you don't know about, hence the occasional outbursts. Then you can feel happy that your male friends have found such lovely women to spend time with. As you start to feel the love and happiness for them and their unions that feeling will attract men to you, if that is what you want of course. Love and joyful feelings attract love and joyful situations to you, remember. And the reverse is also true, negative feelings and judgement of others come back to you in your life too. Another perspective to consider for you. Much love to you! I hope you get all that you want in life, and soon...


answered 18 Nov '13, 06:46

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Lovely said.

(19 Nov '13, 22:03) PERFECT GOOD

PERFECT GOOD, thank you :)

(20 Nov '13, 05:08) Yes

Dear Yes. Thanks for your kind reply to my question. I really appreciate your perspective and suggesting that I have loving feelings towards these women. I don't think that I could see them as sweet, kind and warm because I honestly don't think they are and to make such a jump of belief would be quite difficult. I don't think my mind could accept it. On the other hand, I could try to love them despite their shortcomings and look for other good qualities in them which they obviously have.

(20 Nov '13, 16:12) Inner Beauty

@Inner beauty "On the other hand, I could try to love them despite their shortcomings and look for other good qualities in them which they obviously have". All the luck for your trails.

(20 Nov '13, 21:44) PERFECT GOOD
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be it like a prayr,
your positive thoughts would be
a favor to this unaware

individual to see what
he does not yet percieve


answered 18 Nov '13, 18:11

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Truly said. Thank you.

(19 Nov '13, 21:59) PERFECT GOOD

@fred, "individual to see what he does not yet percieve" it is true and I also understand that according to our consciousness we attract or see something that makes our job easier.

(20 Nov '13, 02:07) PERFECT GOOD

Thank you Fred. I will try to send positive thoughts for the situation that whatever is for the best for all will happen.

(20 Nov '13, 16:13) Inner Beauty

inner beauty, a difficult lesson to learn is to not take on other's earned karma, it is something they need to work out or take steps to ameliorate

(20 Nov '13, 19:46) fred
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If your really interested to make fair justice to the man you mentioned. First of all you need to be ready to face the woman wraths without any fear or I mean to say just delete your fear towards that woman anger. And also suggest you not to entertain any negativity thought towards that woman (or any human being). Because it first stop you to get connected with that person. If you fear to connect obviously the problem won't be resolved. Try to convince yourself that you are doing the best and concentrate make it accomplished. All the best from Perfect Good.


answered 17 Nov '13, 23:23

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(18 Nov '13, 04:36) PERFECT GOOD

@PERFECT GOOD, there are no time limits on when you need to use your account. You can come and go as you please.

(18 Nov '13, 05:21) IQ Moderator ♦♦

@PERFECT GOOD. Thank you so much for your comment. Yes I need to not be angry. But it's not so much that I'm angry at the person. I'm angry at the Universe for allowing injustice which is how I'm perceiving it. I might ask a separate question about that.. thanks again.

(20 Nov '13, 16:09) Inner Beauty
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