Hi serenegirleen
Thank you Thank you Thank you for posting this question and sharing your direct experience associated with the nature of your focus.

I have been trying to convey this fact through so many answers but it is not getting through because people tend to associate "avoidance" with the idea, "therefore it will not happen to me".

The reality is that everyone can relate to experiencing things that they do not want to happen to them, but they do not associate their choice to "worry" as being the cause of their suffering.

As far as I know, it only works if your sincerity in not getting help from your family was real.

In other words, if one tries to adopt a desire for avoiding something, but secretly wished that it would happen, I highly doubt that it would work.

However, coming back to your situation, your success had mostly to do with "FOCUS" of intention rather than whether the intention had anything to do with something you want or did not want.

Ultimately, it all comes down to intensity of focus.

It does not matter what it is that you focus on, as long as the focus is STRONG, INTENSE, REPETITIVE combined with, an EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE, you will constantly participate in the physical reflection of that experience.

The idea that you attract positive because positivity is an attractive energy is very misleading, because it leads people to avoid taking responsibility for their negativity as the cause of their negative experience.

Because in reality we attract whatever that, we participate constantly in consciousness.

If that participation is one of complaining about our current situation, then we constantly attract more and more of the same conditions of complaint because the physical is constantly reflective of the content of one's conscious attention.

However, the trick is that we have to be sincere in our condition of suffering.

WE have to be sincere in our desire to avoid a situation of suffering in order to experience that suffering. There has to be a total commitment in our desire to avoid it in order for us to experience it.

You were focusing clearly on the fact that you did not want this help and I am sure that you would have associated some emotional experience of discomfort with the help. If you did experience discomfort because of the help you received, then your attraction was very successful.

Therefore, the question you have to ask yourself is "IS THIS HOW I WANT TO ATTRACT WHAT I WANT?" Because you are attracting an emotional experience combined with a physical counterpart that represents that emotional experience.

You really can attract the same experience with an emotionally preferred response rather than an experience of avoidance.

Remember that "avoidance" IS an experience.

Likewise, "I don't want" IS an experience.

As long as you can experience it in your focus of conscious attention, it does not matter if it is something you want or do not want, because you will attract both as long as your focus is intense and, shall we say "obsessive?"

What you attracted was the physical counterpart of an emotional experience that you did not want. Your intensity of focus on what you did not want was so strong' that you managed to physically and experientially confirm it.

Perhaps, this may not be what you want as your constant physical reflection.

You may want your physical surrounding to reflect that which you want to experience.

The process is exactly the same, except you find comfort in the fact that your friends are helping you in your moment of need.

On the long run, you may not want to associate your friends and family as being responsible for your source of stability and joy. It is better to be less specific and allow the universe or the source of creation, to work out the details of who, when, where and how the physical reality begins to reflect the content of your obsession in consciousness.

Finally I am so glad that you had this experience and through your first had account, confirmed the mechanism of how the law of attraction actually works.

I know that you will use this experience as an important cornerstone in your mastery of the Law of attraction.

Thank you for sharing.