i practice the law of attraction for a few years now, and my question is about manifesting a happy relationship.
(soory about my english its a second languige )
i literally manifest NOTHING in that erea, and no one!! i look good and great personality etc...i work on myself, belive that and get confirmation from the outside. i do my best to imagine and feel what i want to feel with a lover/boyfriend/husband, write stuff in my notebook of my positive aspect of life everyday , and feel really good almost as if i need and want nothing. i am really happy.
but... still... it does seem weird to me from time to time that no one is even come to rty speak to me - years ago men loved me so much and now - i dont know ... i dont feel lonely by my self (im strting to belive thats a problem), but it realy starts makeing me worry to keep beliving in the loa cause i want to see results - i did the work!! i dont understant how is it that people around me, get what they want so easly , i know and belive its easy but apparently it is not. something is not ok .
and even when i ignore everyone else and focus on myself only --- how come no one is a match for me (no matter what i look or act like), i have no one in my life exept for my family. how come out of 7 bilion people there isnt anyone who is a match foe me? even someone to fight with.. i just want to see a match. but for years - no one. is that possible? (yes, but why?)
help please. :) thanks. and much love
Your English is great!! :)
Ok, I will add something to the great answer above that may be of help on this.
I have a theory that sometimes your IB will direct you to what you want by not giving you what you want right now. This makes sense if you think of the essence behind why you want this relationship which is to feel better (feel love, passion, security etc.)
You are not feeling these emotions now, dominantly, because if you were the relationship wouldn't matter so much. You would have a sort of 'a relationship might be nice to have' feeling rather than a 'where is it?????' vibe about it.
You must be lower on the EGS than love, freedom etc. because you are desiring the relationship so that it pulls you UP to those feelings. The problem is if the relationship comes to you now it will come to you wherever you are on the scale, which means you will bring the relationship DOWN to where you are.
(This is why I believe you're IB sometimes hides things from you until you are ready to see them through happy (top of the EGS) eyes. It's as if the out of the vortex relationships that you are a match to now pass you by completely rather than enter your life and cause disruption, because your IB wants you to lift up into the vortex to SEE the perfect relationship which is there waiting for you.
IB will give what you really want which is a happy relationship and you wouldn't have that if it came now...
A relationship might pull you up into the vortex for a few days or weeks but eventually your dominant vibration (lower down the scale) will infect the relationship and that relationship won't feel very good at all. Haven't you seen people in very unhappy relationships? That's because a relationship can only mirror where you are and they are not in a happy vibration inside.
The solution is to get in the vortex, keep doing what you're doing. Try not to put your hands on the hot stove (think about the lack of relationship) Find the things that make you feel good.
Once you are dominantly in the vortex, your relationship will appear. It won't make you feel any better because you will already have done that by yourself. However taking your love, passion, enthusiasm, security INTO a relationship will mean that the person you are in the relationship with has to mirror that back to you and the relationship will be loving, passionate, wonderful. It all comes from YOU.
If you met someone now they will have to mirror where you are, which is doubt, frustration, a little instability maybe. That person now today would offer behaviour that amplifies those feelings in you. You feel frustration now today, the person in the relationship with you, now today, does something which triggers frustration in you which makes you feel bad, then maybe you have an angry row, and on it goes.
Can you see how different those relationships would feel? Which do you want? Your IB knows you want the loving, stable relationship but you cannot have that until you're feeling that in yourself.
A similar thing happened to me when I found LOA. I immediately wanted the big jackpot on the lottery and my general feelings about life were around the depression, powerless bottom end of the EGS.
Imagine if I had won the lottery from that vibration? I would have felt happy for a week then pulled that win down to where I was, fearful, depressed etc. And LOA would have provided many situations (using that money) to make me feel fear, depression because that is where I was emotionally.
I learned to climb the scale a bit at a time with my IB by my side. I remember once when I was around frustration on the scale... I shouted to Source/My IB: "Why can't I have my lottery jackpot win now????" And I got an instant sign back from the Universe. It was booming at me: "Building Character" it said.
I didn't want to "build character" I wanted the money to make me feel better. Now, I am enormously grateful that I didn't get big money when I was down in the low vibration. I would have been one of those winners you see on TV documentaries about the boom and bust lottery winners, whose relationships fall apart, they lose family ties, lose all the money etc.
The BIG money did come to me but it came when I was dominantly feeling enthusiasm, passion, security, stability, invincibility. I am eternally grateful it came then and not SIX YEARS earlier (that's how long it took to climb to the top of the scale and into the vortex) but I would do the same again, all over because the money FEELS so good now, so easy, no problems at all with having it, managing it etc. It just adds to my stability that's there with or without the money. My life feels AMAZING now.
Have patience while your Inner Being guides you to where you really want to be which is in the vortex. It knows what it's doing. Do whatever you are doing to keep touching the vortex. From what you have described you are doing really well.
Abraham says it only takes 30 days to get in to the vortex. It took me so long because I was holding the cork under the water and focused on what I didn't have. You can be 30 days away from a loving relationship if you just let go and trust that it's done and it's coming, at the right time for you, when you're a perfect match to it, and not a second before.
Keep us posted :)
I cannot add much more to the superb answer @Yes has written, but maybe I can offer a slightly different angle.
There are a few things that I think are given, and beyond doubt:
If you agree with these, then you also have accept that it's entirely possible that you won't get your desired outcome in this life at all. You'll make regular progress, and you'll have gone a long way since you started out, but it's possible that you'll not be able to quite reach the level that's needed to get that one problem resolved.
The good news is that no effort is lost. In your next life you'll start where you left off in this life, and you'll breeze through it. I know it doesn't help you now but I am reasonably sure that's how it works. This is why you see people who are highly proficient in creating reality while the majority of us struggle to consistently apply what we have learnt so far. It's not a reflection on your lack of ability, it's just that the person who is highly proficient has been around longer (i.e. had a few dozen or a few hundred more rebirths that you or I have had), they have just been doing this for much longer that you or I have :-) This doesn't mean in your next life you don't have to experience any suffering before all your past knowledge resurfaces... because nobody discovers LOA when they are six months old.
This is also the reason many people have unusual natural ability at everyday things, e.g. music, sports, etc. It's because they also struggled through many lifetimes until it finally clicked for them.
You can also look at this as a (very clever) conspiracy of your higher self to get you started (and keep you hooked) on the path of spirituality. If you didn't have that one unsolvable problem, would you be reading about and practising LOA at all?
I don't personally believe it is possible to attract "nothing", though it is easy to attract lack from a place of noticing lack.
I am actually in the exact same position as you, which makes a question posted by "myself" very uncanny to respond to! One difference though, is that I now believe that I already have the relationship I think I desire right now, in this moment. I also believe that right now is not the best time for me to engage in this desired relationship, and I understand that my beliefs are both offering vibrations so that I will enter into the relationship when it is the best time.
There is no amount of "work" that you can do on yourself to make anything happen sooner than the best time, but you can "play" on yourself until you no longer care about when it comes, and you can be stronger in your belief that you already have what is coming than your current belief that what you want isn't coming when you think you want it.
You really believe you don't have an outstanding and glorius match, out of 7 billion people?! That must be a very powerful belief! :)
Perhaps keep it powerful, but flip it on its head and state with confidence that there must be hundres, even thousands or tens of thousands of desired matches out there, and I only want one at a time that is best for me. This may be even easier to believe than what you're holding onto now!
Much love as well, Bawk7
answered 07 Nov '16, 15:59
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