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I got an idea to ask this question and we could perhaps continuously update the lessons we learn as we go. This might create an interesting list of lessons over time. It would be great if you would post yours and update them as you learn new ones.


"Tomorrow always appear more promising than today" - So often we postpone things and say - I'll do it tomorrow. Tomorrow I'll start anew,... make a big change,... one more cigarette then I quit for good. But when tomorrow becomes today, we shift our focus and postpone again.

Until we learn that life is lived right now, not tomorrow. Start now, make the changes NOW, your last cigarette was the one you already had. (I learned this from observing my friend who always postpone stuff, and thanks to it I realized I do it too and that's how I got to live my life more in PRESENT than any other time)

"You can't outrun your poor lifestyle" - You can burn approximately 500 calories in an hour of doing cardio, but, there's is more calories than that in a Happy Meal.

It's often our own ignorance that keeps us from achieving our goals. Educate yourself about whatever you love and be open minded. (I learned this from my own experience when there was no progress in my fitness goals)

"Where there are lovers, there are haters too" - Opinions, opinions. Everyone got one. And sometimes we are so scared to go through trial and error of our personal experience that we search for "safe and secure" ways in opinions of others. We make ourselves prisoners to opinions of other people.

Just as thousand words can't describe a picture, so can't thousand opinions outweigh your own experience. Don't be afraid to fail your way to success. After all, it's experience that make you who you are. (Learned this in fitness world, where there's a lot of opinions about how to reach a certain goal. So many different opinions one could go crazy and desperate to find the right one. That made me realize that also in life, we just think and wonder, instead of going and trying on our own skin. You have to see for yourself what works the best for you - There's no magic formula nor script, just trial and error)

asked 10 Jul '12, 03:51

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The thing I've remembered about life is that there are no strict lessons to learn. There isn't a karmic debt to pay and there aren't really any obstacles which are disguised as lesson tools. It's not about going from one life to the next and just accumulating this life knowledge through hard painful and unknown pilgrimages.

I'd rather smoke cigarettes and eat Happy Meals every day than adopt that mindset :)

If life were merely just to serve the purpose of being some sort of school, then what happens when you finally graduate and master all of this wisdom? I have heard that, when you get there (be it enlightenment or whatever), the next big thing is to make it happen for others. Let's theoretically say even that were to happen....Then what?

Ah, yes, now what?!

Well...Now it's just about having fun and living life, or your next life times, in a state of bliss! You cannot stop living, just as you cannot imagine not having a consciousness. You see now how this lesson stuff is just a silly theory of learning just for the sake in order for one to give permission to enjoy themselves?

The philosophy of just having fun is my own conclusion to how I'm going to live, formed from an amalgum of things I've "learned" this lifetime. I cannot accept that 'school of life' concept at all because of it's lack of common sense. If you look at little children you'll be seeing nothing but pure joy and happiness, free of ego.

It's often stated by Taoists that there are very few differences between children and the enlightened...Something to ponder?alt text


answered 10 Jul '12, 05:33

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@Nikulas - Brilliant :) I also think the value of observing the behavior of babies and young children cannot be overstated. Abraham often say that since they have "freshly" emerged from Source, they still remember what it feels like to have that perspective, and so they act in that joyful, carefree, living-in-the-Now manner. Interesting that even in our heavily-conditioned and manipulated human societies, it still takes several years for us to knock those attitudes out of them :)

(10 Jul '12, 05:49) Stingray

@Nikulas, Interesting point of view. So you have no purpose or goal you're after in life? Not up for some challenge ? I see enjoying oneself as a process, a way of living. Achieving a specific goal just gives me a direction. And it's when you set up a goal for yourself that "obstacles/challenges" from which you draw your lessons appear. You can of course stay where you are and have fun with that. I could eat Happy Meals all the time, but then again "No meal tastes as good as looking great feels"

(10 Jul '12, 05:50) CalonLan

And so I choose to subordinate my eating habits to my outlook preferences. Also, I believe you either live a life as a consequence of actions of others. Or you live a life of your actions. Reactive or proactive.

And I wouldn't bother myself with "what's next" there's always something next. But as I said, goals are there only to create a unique experience of your own way of living. Same approach to life + thousands of goals to achieve = thousands variations of your way. Thousand experience. ;)

(10 Jul '12, 05:56) CalonLan

@CalonLan- To me, goals are not created merely to experience the one and only end result. I used to be this way, and viewing goals from that perspective will leave you living your life in about 95% hard, boring, unenjoyable discipline, and 5% pleasure. Rather, set goals to GO ON THE JOURNEY, and that's that.

Once you 'complete' a goal, all I do is get another PURELY to get back onto the journey of it. So yes I have lots of goals, but I approach them differently >>

(10 Jul '12, 06:00) Nikulas

And consequently multitude of "lessons to learn" from each of them. And the more you learn, the more you know, the more you can show and share with everyone. And then we get to real life, where people are sad and unhappy. It's only when you learn those lessons you are able to relate to others in their stride and help them out to live more happy life. Because e.g. alcohol is not an answer to someone's problems. Well it is, pathetic one. Thanks to lessons you learn, you can show them better one.=)

(10 Jul '12, 06:01) CalonLan

<< and out of fun. It's like riding a bike for the first time; if you go for a ride down to the local shops, you do it for the ride more than just to get where you need to go, yet having a 'direction' to go IS a requirement in order to launch off and start the ride. This link is pretty much what I'm talking about:

(10 Jul '12, 06:07) Nikulas

@Stingray- Philosophy students think they're so smart going to university to learn "the ways of the world." Why not just visit a day care? :P

(10 Jul '12, 06:13) Nikulas

@Nikulas - Indeed :) I still find it amazing how a baby (especially newborn), even when quiet, can completely dominate the attention of adults in a room. Adults rationalize it by saying the baby is "cute" but, really, it is still closely aligned with Source and I wonder if that's what the adults are really sensing as though it reminds them of something. When I'm completely Vortex aligned, I also seem to similarly grab the attention of babies wherever I reminds them of something :)

(10 Jul '12, 06:25) Stingray

@Stingray, strange, I'm kind of repelled by children haha. But same goes for animals. Perhaps because they are out of "circle of my direct influence" that I don't enjoy time spent in their presence as much as I do in the presence of "things" I can directly influence. If I pressed "A" on the keyboard and it typed "B" I would probably lose interest immediately. I seem to be unable to derive joy from someone's else experience. But then again, no sadness from it either. I'm just most happy with me.

(10 Jul '12, 06:44) CalonLan

@Nikulas, yes, I understand and agree with you. It's what also Lapis posted in one other thread (can't seem to find it now). And basically we see it the same way, I just express it in a different manner.

The original post could also read - what are (in your opinion) interesting "milestones" you have crossed on your way to wherever or whatever you are going in your life. It wasn't meant that these lessons are needed to be learned by others or taught to others, but merely show one's journey. ;)

(10 Jul '12, 06:47) CalonLan

@CalonLan- If you word your original question that way and in that style, then clearly my answer would have been totally out of context with what you were attempting to gather. As soon as I saw 'life lessons' I just go Kamakazi on people who could (potentionally) be experiencing and enjoying their life so much more, and with less complexity. But I guess we are somewhat on the same page, minus a few things. At the end of the day I felt welcomed to give my humble opinion :)

(10 Jul '12, 07:31) Nikulas

@Nikulas-love it,that inner child is still within us but is forced to "grow up" at an early age.When we Self-Align we align with it also and then it can fully express itself again:)

(10 Jul '12, 07:38) Satori

@CalonLan- But please, if you want me to clarify some things I've said (or anyone else), let me know. I'm not a good debator, all I can do is explain my own ways of living in this world in relation to your question. If there's something I say which doesn't vibe with you, cool, just accept that that's my personal individual belief system I'm currently using, and I wish you all the best in creating your own that gives you the most happiness- regardless what others think.

(10 Jul '12, 07:38) Nikulas

@Stingray- What a mind stimulating concept about the 'energy' of the baby VS the 'cuteness' of it. I'm gonna analyse and observe things differently with my 2 year old baby sister now ^.^

(10 Jul '12, 07:45) Nikulas

@Nikulas, opinions are always welcome ;) I never know what I might be missing out on. And thank you for sharing your point of view indeed. As always, I take what resonates within me and incorporate it to my way of living to test it out for myself.

(10 Jul '12, 08:26) CalonLan

@CalonLan- You're welcome, and muchly appreciated.

(10 Jul '12, 08:36) Nikulas

@Nikulas, not a good debator? I found this entire exchange facinating. You all have made excellent points. I just woke up, first sips off coffee with this, and my mind is already buzzing with inspiring thoughts and attitudes. Thanks!

(10 Jul '12, 08:57) Grace

@Stingray, I have a similar feeling with babies. They often look right into my eyes and hold my glance with a meaningful look, like we share a secret. :) As soon as they can talk, I love asking them where they came from before they got here. Fun, fun stuff.

(10 Jul '12, 13:58) Grace

@Nikulas- Hey, dude, Wow! Have you grown! I am so proud of you! One of the best answers I (and Wade) have ever read! <3 Jai

(10 Jul '12, 23:10) Jaianniah

Babies and animals love me.

(10 Jul '12, 23:39) Fairy Princess
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Life has taught me so much. I have made a lot of mistakes, but those mistakes have taught me well. Here are some of the things I have learned:

1.) Count on yourself. In the end, we are all responsible for our own stuff. It may stink, but it is true. So watch your actions, watch for anything that may rebound on you.

2.) You cannot love anyone else until you love yourself. It may sound selfish, but it is a truth- “Love you neighbor as yourself” is how it goes in the Bible. It is not putting yourself first- rather it is caring for yourself just so you can be of service to others.

3.) Money is nice, it is NOT supposed to be the center of our lives. Money is a nice tool, and helps a lot, but can go in a blink of an eye.

4.) I need to believe in God to be happy. It just doesn't go well for me when I forget that God is there; in fact, He is ready and willing to help me along the right path.

5.) Be happy. Try as hard as you can to be a happy person. It sometimes is very hard, but it pays will see!

6.) Keep a folded $20 bill in your wallet for emergencies only. BTW, a pack of smokes, a drink at the bar, a cool bargain are not emergencies! :)

7.) Plant at least one tree in your life. You do this for the people of the future and not for yourself. Every time we celebrated a birth at our house or in our family, we planted an evergreen. It's a really nice idea I got from a very special lady that I loved very much...she died some years ago, and I still miss her.

8.) Take care of your teeth...Believe me, partials and dentures really suck!

9.) Laugh often. Laughter is really the best medicine!

Just some thoughts from Jai <3 <3 <3

answered 10 Jul '12, 22:34

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(12 Jul '12, 04:38) ursixx

@ursixx- How could I have forgotten??? LOL Jai

(12 Jul '12, 06:15) Jaianniah

@ursixx vit D is important. I have read that sunscreen actually has increased the occurance of cancer by blocking vit D.

(12 Jul '12, 09:48) Fairy Princess

@Jaianniah I would repurpose the $20 from emergency money (don't plan to have an emergency) to seed money and watch it grow. :)

(12 Jul '12, 09:49) Fairy Princess

@Fairy Princess Ok then take the 20 bucks and buy a nice floppy hat to filter the sun instead ;)

(13 Jul '12, 15:50) ursixx

@Fairy Princess and @ursixx- That folded $20 used to be less...and I am so broke right now, it is gone...when you are broke, everything is an emergency...LOL! But I have to mention that I have to take Vitamin D becuase I do not get enough sun (I am very fair). I feel a lot better since my doc put me on it. ♥♥♥ Jai

(13 Jul '12, 23:52) Jaianniah
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I've learned so much hanging around here. What I have been learning is setting me free from limiting mind-sets and has brought me up from daily struggle with debilitating depression, to I can't even find the tissues - I honestly can't remember the last time I cried. :)

So thank you for asking the question, @CalonLan, great idea to have a cheat-sheet to remember and keep all our treasures near at hand.

I just learned, that I live up to the expectations and the vision people have of me. Or rather, that it is easier to come up higher if being up higher is what the people around you see for you.

It is one of the many reasons IQ is such an empowering place. :)


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