So, I am having a hearty laugh along with someone and 9-10 seconds (really hearty one) into it I suddenly catch myself thinking "Is this laughter real or is this a fake one?"

I mean, I was questioning 'Am I feeling this good?" even further to "Is this the real good feeling or am I exaggerating this one because of my awareness that I should be feeling good?"

I know the laughter and the feeling was genuine but what's confusing is the part where I am doubting whether it really is genuine?? This thought made me feel uncomfortable and manipulative.

This is new to me. Regardless of whether the laughter/feeling was genuine or not (it was genuine in this case), why would I ask myself something like that? Doubting it? While earlier (before the knowledge of Vortex) I would go with the flow much this normal for newbies with deliberate thinking?

I am sorry if the question is not clear, wanted to write down the feelings before I analyzed them too much

asked 25 Jul '12, 15:49

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edited 25 Jul '12, 15:51

@Starlight, yea, it really surprised me at the moment. Too much analysis:))

(26 Jul '12, 02:20) Xoomaville

@Grace, I know its tough but lets not dwell on it:)

(26 Jul '12, 02:57) Xoomaville

@Xoomaville, Contrary to what Starlight, it's not normal.

(26 Jul '12, 03:43) CalonLan

@CalonLan, thanks for the comment. So, what could be causing me to doubt it ? Have you felt this either way? What your take?

(26 Jul '12, 03:56) Xoomaville

@Xoomaville, I answered also that question in my previous answer. Though you may not find it within the words I used, but you'll see it in the act and way of answering itself. And it's the same thing I wanted to touch on just as you did with your question "what could be causing me to doubt it?" ;-)... sorry about being mysterious. Just trying a different approach in answering.

(26 Jul '12, 04:25) CalonLan

@CalonLan:) ...clever, I get it now, thanks:)

(26 Jul '12, 06:22) Xoomaville

@Starlight, as I mentioned it someplace else, if you want to tag someone, use this symbol --->@ followed by their username without any spaces in @CalonLan :)

(26 Jul '12, 08:41) Xoomaville

Thanks @Xooma

(26 Jul '12, 08:53) Starlight
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Laughter feels good, doubt not so good. Both feelings are communications from your inner being. Maybe you will want to work on feeling OK about feeling good. Life is supposed to feel good.

I'm a great believer in EFT for situations like this. Tapping on "it's OK for me to feel good" or something like that.


answered 26 Jul '12, 06:32

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@purple_iris, thank you. Yeah, I am going to give EFT a try with that affirmation you mentioned:)

(26 Jul '12, 07:15) Xoomaville

you want to know who it is
that is doing the laughing
yes, it is a part of you
yet you question its origin

is it from frontal lobe
intellect, genuine feeling
or intuitively so
a reason to know self


answered 26 Jul '12, 10:01

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I think this has to do with our making the decision to get happy, first, foremost, and above all other considerations. I believe in that approach to life wholeheartedly, and for many excellent reasons. The benefits to your life, health, relationships, expansion, attitude, awareness, etc. are countless and invaluable.

From my own experiences with reaching for this goal, I find that there is a pitfall lurking that is very easy to fall into if you are not looking out for it: The happy feelings must be genuine, and cannot be forced or faked. If I do try to force or fake this, I am bound to feel the resistance inside myself to the insincerity, especially now that I am becoming so much more self-aware.

This attempt at self-deception would logically become more and more uncomfortable as I make progress, I would guess due to the disparity between the vibrations I am imitating, and the vibrations I am actually sending out, though this disparity may have been more acceptable in the past. I think of it as the like the feeling you get when you don't eat junk food for a long while, then if you decide to eat some potato chips, they will make you feel sick, though you may have been fine with them before. :)

I think that you are becoming aware of this pitfall, too. Even though the laughter you described was genuine, there is a part of you that is aware that it sometimes may not be so, and so that part of you would naturally question the purity of your feelings, and become more insistant as you make your own progress.

If I were to offer you advice, I would say that what has worked for me is not to fight with that inner questioner, but rather thank him for watching out for you, for taking such good care of you. Ask him to show you paths to genuine happiness, express your desire to be done with settling for anything less. I believe you will receive that guidance from your own naturally happy self, and find it to be precious knowledge indeed. :).


answered 26 Jul '12, 12:34

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edited 26 Jul '12, 13:10

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@LapisLazuli - Thanks!

(26 Jul '12, 13:14) Grace

You're welcome :)

(26 Jul '12, 13:17) LapisLazuli
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