When we meet people with whom we seem to have an instant connection or feel as if we know them, could it be due to reincarnation or could it be that we are part of the other person's manifestation?

asked 07 May '10, 22:48

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I Think Therefore I Am

edited 24 Nov '11, 10:35

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In addition to what Vesuvius has said another thing to consider is that those who you take an instant or strong dislike to could also be part of your pre-birth or reincarnational agreements.

If you create your own reality then everyone who enters your reality must be matching some vibrational output that you are offering the universe.

So if you are offering a vibration that does not serve you, doesn't that mean that people who highlight those vibrations to you (and doggedly refuse to change) are doing you a great service?

They are demonstrating clearly to you an aspect of yourself that you are not comfortable with.

The following story illustrates this point quite dramatically, I think.


Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong.

The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.

Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe.'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'

This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'

'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho'oponopono means loving yourself.

If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.

I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.

'That's it?'

'That's it.'

Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.


answered 08 May '10, 08:37

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edited 08 May '10, 09:09


Wow fantastic story and it opens a completely new dimension of thought for me personally. However I'm confused about one point - if everyone creates their own reality e.g my mom's illness is her creation how can I heal her? Does that mean we can change other people's realities and creations?

(08 May '10, 11:49) I Think Therefore I Am

Wow!!! - Greatt!! story - makes one ponder - how powerful are we really? @ I Think Therefore I Am - "Does that mean we can change other people's realities and creations?" - see this question. http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/977/does-a-change-in-one-persons-reality-affect-everyones-reality

(08 May '10, 13:00) Michaela

only according to their faith and free will and dees and conduct. only then you can heal her god will send that reward through someone attune to him.experience and enjoy.

(24 Nov '11, 12:14) white tiger


(24 Nov '11, 12:20) white tiger
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That's an interesting premise. You're probably not too far off, since a connection of the kind you describe suggests that you match vibrationally with the other person.

That said, many of the most successful marriages I have seen are ones who "complete" each other, as in opposites attract. This is certainly true of my wife, who has talents that I lack, and I have corresponding talents that she lacks.

Some new age lore suggests that like-minded spirits share many lives together, frequently incarnating under similar circumstances or relationships, so that they can continue to share experiences over many lifetimes. In essence, they are your spiritual partners.


answered 08 May '10, 00:19

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I agree, I live in the clouds and my wife has got hold of my foot. I am so very grateful.Thank you.

(08 May '10, 04:58) Roy
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