Hello all, firstly I would like to compliment everyone here for being a light in the dark. I am having many problems in my life which recently I have decided to fix with a large overhaul of many areas that I do not like.

A bit of background information may help others point me in the right direction. I have many illnesses and allergies, the worst being my eczema and most annoying being allergic to preservatives that make my lips swell up. I have never really fit in with friends, spent my life wanting things that I believed I couldn't have, worked for minimum wage in three dead end jobs while I could find a job as I have spent a large amount of time unemployed. I struggled in school, got a college diploma in photography (barely) and have had only one girlfriend (which was pretty traumatic over a long period of time) I could go into more details but I think you get the idea. Maybe I have been manifesting these situations for myself. I want to know how to change this all around.

I used to be and I am still kind of a positive person but I am also not at the same time. Almost like I'm kidding myself, but what is messed up is that I'm not sure if I am positive or negative and what one I am pretending to be. My life is full of such inconsistencies and dualities, I tried counselling but the woman just listened and expected me to be able to talk and work through my problems. I was left sat there in silence even more confused than I felt before.

It all stems down to the fact that I have been a heavy stoner for the last six years of my life, I am nearly twenty one and it is dawning on me I need to get my act together. For a few years now I have researched into spiritual (for lack of a better word) things in life and how to better myself etc. The problem is that I have accumulated so much knowledge I have forgotten most of anything that is important and now I find myself lost and not knowing where to look or what to do.

Basically I am looking for someone to point me in the right direction of somewhere to start.

I am sorry if this seems a bit rushed but I had typed out a rather long question going into lots of details which I then lost after signing up, I can't for the life of me remember half of what I said and I am rather frustrated so I just want to get this question out there so to speak as quickly as possible.

Thank you.

Addiditional details as remembered: I am very interested in personal magnetism, the laws of the universe, meditation, astral projection and most importantly listening to my inner self or my higher being (I'm not sure if this is the same thing or not); well really I am interested in everything but I need somewhere to start.

asked 27 Sep '12, 12:32

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edited 27 Sep '12, 15:53

Please feel free to ask me any questions for further details, I just didnt know what to include again upon re-writing it. Thank you Barry Allen for formatting this post for me, I will make sure my next is neater.

(27 Sep '12, 12:41) lastplacefavourite

@lastplacefavourite, you are welcome. If you can remember any other details to your question, feel free to edit it and add them in

(27 Sep '12, 13:35) Barry Allen ♦♦
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point me in the right direction of somewhere to start

Welcome to IQ :)

Whenever you are feeling lost or confused or uncertain or anything other than positive, it's for one reason only...

...there is a "disconnect" between the physical You and the non-physical You.

Every process that exists, or will ever exist, is about helping you "reconnect" the two You's.

I put the words "disconnect" and "reconnect" in quotes because you can never really completely disconnect and, because of the way physical reality is set up, you can never really completely reconnect.

But bearing in mind that basic strategy, you now need to find some way of thinking or something to do that helps you with that reconnection. Because when you are reconnected, your life starts to magically sort itself out and clear itself up with relatively little physical effort on your part...it just naturally happens.

When one holds the frequency of a connected and harmonized Self, your world around you must re-condense and re-mold automatically to match that new frequency.

So your question now becomes something along the lines of "What should I do to manage that reconnection most effectively?"

It's hard to prescribe a particular process with so little information to go on but the key is that whatever process works for you (for now) will make you feel a lot better, very quickly.

If you don't feel better quickly from using a process, ditch it for now and try something else. As you gradually feel better and better, different processes will seem to fit you better...just stick to the same principle of using whatever works quickly for you.

If I was to choose just one process out of all the ones I know that would work most effectively for the most people when starting out, it would be daily meditation....meditation in this sense meaning just slowing down or stopping your thoughts for a short period of time (not more than 10-15 minutes a day).

Applied correctly, meditation will almost force you to find other companion processes to help you stay in the good-feeling place that the meditation habit will lead you into.

Meditation in that sense becomes both a carrot and a stick :) The carrot is the promise of feeling good for periods during the day, the stick is the extra pain you will feel from allowing yourself to sink back into previous disempowering habits of thought.

To understand why this happens, take a look at Is Meditation A Cure-All?

An unexpected further bonus of meditation is that it starts to increase your intuitive abilities because you are strengthening the connection between the two Yous.

And as your intuitive faculties improve, you start to get impressions and ideas as to which way to go next on your path of (re)awakening to who you really are. You start to trust your inner guidance more and you start to develop an unshakeable faith in your own abilities to make your life the way you want it.

That's not a bad place to end up :) ...and, over a period of time, it makes you feel invincible :)


answered 27 Sep '12, 15:09

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Thank you so much for taking your time to write such a detailed answer. I have been seeing your name around quite often, its down to people like you that I have faith in humanity. Without you and people with similar minds, I believe we would of written ourselves off a long time ago.

(27 Sep '12, 15:33) lastplacefavourite

@lastplacefavourite - You're welcome. Glad to help :)

(27 Sep '12, 15:58) Stingray

STINGRAY saves the day again !

(28 Sep '12, 05:37) TReb Bor yit-NE

No matter how long we've been on our inward quest, there's always room for growth and development. Well received. Thanks @Stingray.

(28 Sep '12, 12:47) figure8shape

@Stingray - Whenever I feel like I am losing my way, it is following this kind of solid, foundational advice that puts me right again. It's like "Eat your veggies!" I struggle to explain to people when they ask for help why this advice, though it seems so simple, is so important, and moreover how it will help. This is the perfect question, where to start? Or, for some of us, where to start over? :) And the perfect answer. Thank you, @Stingray.

(17 Feb '13, 10:48) Grace

@Grace - You're welcome. Yes, the strategy for life-change - or digging yourself out of a hole :) - is always the same if you think about it...

  1. Re-sensitize yourself to how you really feel
  2. Find ways to feel better (since you now know how you really feel)
  3. Keep realigning with that better-feeling place on a consistent (preferably, daily) basis until doing so becomes habitual...and eventually effortless
  4. Enjoy the rest of your life ...and keep surfing that leading edge :)
(25 Feb '13, 08:39) Stingray
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Welcome to IQ!

Thanks for your openness and willingness to want to feel better.

If you would, try finding a place (even if a tad) of self-acceptance and acceptance of where you are at emotionally in this very moment. Find a place inside where you can just allow things to be ok right now. Sometimes we are our biggest enemy and down ourselves which creates a viscous cycle of unhappiness. Once you can find a place of self-acceptance and acceptance, it will, over time (naturally) lead to trusting yourself a bit more. As we gain trust in ourselves, we tend to feel better about ourselves and thus make better decisions and see life differently (in a more positive nature).

All the answers you desire stem from within.

Be gentle with yourself, take life one moment at a time, and as @Stingray mentioned, meditation does wonders.

Meditation = Immediate Relief

Give it a try, you have nothing to loose...only inner peace to gain :)

There are tons of resources here on IQ. I also enjoy DharmaWisdom at: http://www.lifebalanceinstitute.com, they provide practical guidance and "how to" on meditation.


answered 28 Sep '12, 13:12

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The only person who can help u is u. BUt the good news is how u help urself is with three keys. This is the 3 keys to happiness. Love, of self then others. Second is light. Light of love nd more so wisdom. The third is awareness. I hope u will take the time to listen to this for i know it will help u. these are not my channeled material with Treb, Just me chatting on what I have learned.

This is the greatest site for help and people who truly love others. You where lead here for a reason, now it is up to u to see why.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aiESuF7nWWk& - Rob talks about Relationships. (loving urself)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ehrRLZsLTI&feature=BFa&list=PLE9F986B783AE05D5 - Rob talks about mannifesting,meditating,looking within

If u look at this and u beleive u can be helped further by me or Treb, contact me and all my help is free of charge, no money , no scams, just help because i love others and wish to.

trebchanneling.com if u are in further need of assistance.

love n light



answered 27 Sep '12, 18:15

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TReb Bor yit-NE

Thank you Rob, I am very interested abot your channelings as I am new to the subject. I will check your videos out and come back to you with any questions that I may have.

(28 Sep '12, 05:22) lastplacefavourite

@lastplacefavourite GREAT! can not wait to see if these vids help u. love n light.

(28 Sep '12, 05:36) TReb Bor yit-NE

when u contact me we will talk.. if u r still interested

(28 Feb '13, 20:58) TReb Bor yit-NE
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Hi and welcome,

Just before sleep think about all the things you want your life to be. Relax but be serious because you will receive what you ask for. To simplify use just words. Like this, Wonderful job, perfect relationships, and happiness.

Drift off with these words on your lips. As your desires come in cheer them on. High five yourself. Celebrate the good.



answered 27 Sep '12, 18:53

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Thank you Tom, I will try this technique out. Is it what you practise?

(28 Sep '12, 05:24) lastplacefavourite

you said that you do not know who you pretend to be. be your self,be the light that you can be ,experience and enjoy. and move out of duality you have free will,what is duality?duality is 2 extreme opposite and yet they are needed and work together,it is like your left and right hand similar opposite that are booth needed and work together.then why hate and judge one or the other? should you not find the truth and see how it all works together? yes it takes less effort and it is more easy to say i know nothing and you know nothing,but you know that this is a lie,the truth is that you know something if not you could not talk or write on the pc right now,the real truth is you know what you know and i know what i know,and we can share truth and learn from each other. someone negative does not want to share or communicate with other people he wants to stay under is little ego in is little darkness,that should give you some help to see life how it really is inside and outside,where to begin you ask? know your self in and out,where does everything start from?it is from you inside 1.spirit 2.soul(mind and heart)3.physical body. so let there be light,be the light that you can be ,experience and enjoy.


answered 27 Sep '12, 20:14

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white tiger

Thank you, just to expand upon the subject a little; Are you saying that negativity isn't a bad thing but rather just part of the whole, so to be the light you must also be the dark. Or at least acknowledge and understand why there is the dark? I am struggling to understand this concept.

(28 Sep '12, 05:30) lastplacefavourite

negativity is your own inner darkness that comes from the division of the truth,you see sometime the stone is not lift and the piece of wood is not properly split. and yet people do the same,and stay cought under their own ego.they do not know that they have free will and are responsible of it.and they continue to do what they hate. eventually they will awake.has for you now that you know the truth you have no excuse.so let there be light be,the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.

(28 Sep '12, 10:56) white tiger
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You may have heard Christians say, "Accept Jesus as your personal savior and your life will automatically change." Here is the part most stumble at "Acceptance." They say they accept that Jesus died for them but then go on feeling bad or regret for their past or present experiences.

This acceptance means you acknowledge that you are forgiven, you are a new positive creation in Christ capable of achieving anything. The old negative you dies and a new positive you is born. Every time you feel that negative you popping back up, deny it the right to speak. Tell it to shut up and return to the grave, you are a new positive creation in Christ, a winner that has the Kingdom Life! You will no longer accept anything less as you are now a Son of God and a King over this Earth experience.

This requires a drastic shift in belief but that is why it is being born again, the old self dies. For this to personally work you must believe fully that you gave up your old self to die on the Cross with Jesus and your new self is born with Jesus resurrection.

If you can fully do this you will be a changed person.

There is a man with a sign, "Free Apples" along comes a starving man and sees the man giving away apples. He ask for an apple, the man goes to hand him an apple but he does not take the apple. He begs and pleads for the man to give him an apple! The man again goes to give him an apple but he does not accept the apple. He cries out please have mercy on me, I am starving, please just one apple! The man again reaches to hand him an apple but the man turns away empty handed walks off in the distance and dies.


answered 28 Sep '12, 11:51

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Wade Casaldi

edited 28 Sep '12, 12:35

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