I've recognized a few steps I have to take in order to advance in my inward quest.

  1. I have to quit smoking, I started smoking a few months ago when things started to get difficult.
  2. I have to stop drinking coffee, I use it as a stimulant, but it depletes the adrenal glands and other minerals.
  3. I have to stop eating chocolate, I started using chocolate as a comfort food about 2 months ago, when things where very stressful.

  4. I have to start feeling more, not avoiding my feelings, not worry too much.

  5. I have to meditate more. These days I meditate for long time but since when I start meditating I feel like crap, I have to spend most of the time going through my body releasing pain and blockages.

And from then on..

Should I start doing this tomorrow? Would you recommend another path? Is it too much for 1 day? Can it be done?

Do you recommend in adding stuff instead of taking away stuff?

I really want to, but I'm fearful to fail and feel defeated.

Would you vibrate to send me strength?

asked 20 Jan '13, 22:37

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edited 21 Jan '13, 04:12

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keep watch get to know your self,let there be light,Be the light that you can be, experience and enjoy. you have free will make wise choice that you add or take away stuff does it change anny thing for you?

(20 Jan '13, 22:47) white tiger

When there is no self, there is no habit. Then anything appearing as a habit can be changed as fast as you can summon a thought of change. Ego will no longer exist and if you choose to summon it, it will be like water that will take any shape and form you put it in. Ego will become your friend.

(21 Jan '13, 03:49) CalonLan

You are saying you have to get rid of your comforts because you feel guilty about them, which means there is an effect (an experience) which you want and do not have and you believe these are the crimes keeping it from you. What is this experience?

(21 Jan '13, 05:12) flowsurfer

@flowsurfer Interesting. I would say I'm depressed, and part of my depression is caused/causes my stomach upset. I need to get rid of these to help my stomach/guts and help my depression. Lately I keep waiting up very early, not being able to go back to sleep again. Since I wake up I feel how my depression starts again in the day in my stomach/guts. I don't know what to do to heal that thing, I'm thinking that these substances are not helping, but I could use any advice.

(23 Jan '13, 09:20) Notgonnatellyou
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  1. This helped me quitting smoking about 3 month ago (thanks @Stingray) and also learning how to feel better every day so i don't need cigarettes to feel better.
  2. Use method mentioned in 1. or check out the manifesting guides.
  3. Same as 1 and 2. Also identify your beliefs behind your behaviour. "What would I have to believe is true about myself in my relationship to this situation to be experiencing what I am experiencing?"
  4. Start meditating, especially i would recommend inner body style meditation while still lying in bed after waking up. I recommend the mc2method (www.mc2method.com, log in with: mc2free)
  5. If meditating for longer periods of time doesn't make you feel good then try the One Moment Meditation.

answered 20 Jan '13, 22:55

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"There is only here and now. This is all there is. There is only one moment in creation. So, anything you think of as a different moment, a different reality, is actually the same one moment, from a different point of view."... @releaser99 timeless! As Bashar says; wrap your mind around that

(21 Jan '13, 01:18) ursixx

@ursixx I agree. This is so simple and easy. Thanks for pointing that one out.

(21 Jan '13, 11:55) releaser99

@releaser99 I tried the method you suggested and it does work, I used to have my first cigarette at 6am and didn't have one until 6pm, but didn't have much cravings. I kept thinking "Why would I have a craving if I never smoked in my life" It does work. I have still plans to do it and I feel confident it's just that day wasn't the right day. Thanks

(23 Jan '13, 00:27) Notgonnatellyou

@Notgonnatellyou I'm glad it works for you too. This is exactly how it works for me. I don't crave because i'm a non-smoker. And i've been a non-smoker my whole life. That's what i tell people when they ask me: "how did you quit smoking?" -"who quitted? I've always been a non-smoker!!". They always think i'm nuts :) ... Also keep in mind that a new belief habit is established in 21 days. Afterwards the thought "Why would I have a craving if I never smoked in my life" will run on autopilot.

(23 Jan '13, 07:15) releaser99
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I stopped biting my nails on a complete whim a few weeks back, I've been biting them since I was a kid. so I believe that habits are just something we choose to do.


answered 21 Jan '13, 14:12

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@deleterjoe- seems good to me :)

(21 Jan '13, 14:17) blubird two

@deleterjoe- some habits are bad habits...but addictions are not habits anymore...they move into the territory of disease and needing more than just a whim to stop...most smokers would love it if they could just quit on a whim...they may do just that, but the withdrawal may or may not make or break them. I know people, myself included, who tried to stop smoking and ended up hospitalized for mental collapse...it all rests on why you do what you do.

(21 Jan '13, 15:47) Jaianniah

I am sure that you can find all sorts of self-help info to stop these habits...but first, I want to say:


Let's look at the stress you seem to be under first. If that is not going to go magically away so that you can stop everything, then maybe you can do this. But if that stress is NOT going to go away all at once, then I would FIRST address the stress.

Make a list of what is going on in your life- to me, it sounds like the last couple of months have been hard. Now, looking at that list, what of those things is going to disappear? If the answer is only a few, or worse, none, then I would re-think this idea of dropping all the "bad" habits all at once in favor of dealing with the stressers.

I just do not want to see you fail at this!

It may pay to take your time...You really want a permanent change, right?

Praying for you,



answered 21 Jan '13, 09:29

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Thanks Jaianniah. I tried the first day with the method suggested by releaser99, and didn't do that bad, until 6pm when I did not have a craving but consciously decided to have a cigarrete because I was going to have to deal with some stuff I knew it could get me very stressed, and wasn't going to have a break for some time. You are right. But I feel pretty confident that I can make it. BTW, chocolate was "easy" but the costume of eating a lot has left my stomach with a lot of acid producing.

(23 Jan '13, 00:26) Notgonnatellyou

@Notgonnatellyou-I thought that was how it would go. You just need to do the best you can each day, trying to approach all your goals as each presents itself to you. You CAN accomplish a lot if you are willing (and a bit masochistic as well :)). I afraid that you may find the smoking the hardest- nicotine has the addictive power of heroin. However, the American Cancer Society says that more times you try to quit, the more likely you are to quit.

(24 Jan '13, 00:39) Jaianniah

@Notgonnatellyou- Hang in there, and best of luck to you. Eamil me for support if you like. I also have a Sneaky Quit Smoking post on HubPages which might be worth a read. Just look for Jaianniah on HubPages, and that article. Blessings, Jai

(24 Jan '13, 00:40) Jaianniah
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