I know many people will say something like, "You need to love yourself first..." That is not an issue with me. I do love myself. Now, as for having friends and enjoying myself around people, I need some manifesting to be done. I want to be popular. I want to be magnetic. I want to brighten up a room when I enter it. I want to make friends with everyone. I want people to be attracted to me. I want to have a great social life. I want many friends +girls... I will become this person no matter what. I would appreciate some ideas and inputs if anyone has any.


asked 24 Jan '13, 10:10

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edited 26 Jan '13, 07:53

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Assume that you already are that person.

(25 Jan '13, 14:47) flowsurfer

People who shine from within, do not need the spotlight.Love and Light.

(27 Jan '13, 09:35) Roy
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A warm welcome to you Bronson :)

A few years ago I also had the same desire. Arguably, I guess I can say I have manifested it! And ironically, the only reason I have noticed my situation is because I read your question!

My honest, most truthful answer is that being popular is based on your own perception. In fact, what does "being popular" even mean in it's best defined sense? I say that it's more of a case about acknowledging your own self worth; try asking why you want to be popular (when you're in a relaxed state) for some insight.

I feel tempted to ramble on about the whys and guidelines and all sorts of other things that don't go straight to your question. I've asked questions on IQ before (waaaay back when I joined) that, observationally speaking, other people haven't answered properly. Today I'll fix you up with my folk wisdom all about being popular.

To brighten up a room when you walk into it, all you really need to do is to get sufficient elecricity (literally) flowing through your body. How? It's the answer to everything- FEEL GOOD! You need to be in a state not where you feel calm, or cool, or relaxed and chilled; you need to be in a state in which you find it challenging to not smile authentically. Through analysis of yourself and life experience, you'll be able to become more sensitive to when you're genuienly feeling good and when you're unconsciously faking it. And the phrase "brighten up a room" means just that- you need to be have an overflow of volts roaring inside you as a unique individual light bulb, so when you do become present around other people, they will immediatly feel your happiness and good vibes.

For clarification, "making friends with everyone", even in your own small world context, just doesn't happen. What happens is that you shift into a reality in which you only have friends and aquantances (spelling) on good terms. You won't notice your lack of friends, but you'll notice how you are just friendly and cheerful with all. On the odd encounter you do bump across someone who doesn't fit that mark as personal material, you won't beat yourself up about it; you'll accept that they are going through their own challenges, and you won't serve them by becoming their doormat, or becoming you imagine they would like, or changing your personality or standards merely just to please them.

You'll find people are attracted to like things. "I want people to be attracted to me"...Well, that's already happening, but perhaps you'd just love to attract people who fit your preferecne more; good feeling people instead of bad ones. You can only attract feelings and vibrations; attracting "people" doesn't happen, rather, what happens is that you attract the feelings out of that person. This explains why someone can be rude to one person, but a total good samaritan and friendly soul to another.

"I want a girlfriend." A happy, blissful, romantic relationship always starts with yourself. In new age context, you'll hear this sort of thing everything about loving yourself, and it's true. To love yourself, understand everyone else and everything else in your outer life is a reflection if you. This trick is this: LOVE ALL OF IT. And the most, shall we say, quickest or sly trick in realising this way to do this, is to just merely have acceptance for all that is; good or bad, whatever happens, fall in love with it. If something terrible goes to plan, fall in love with it. You cannot attract a reflection of yourself (a girlfriend) without first falling in love with the hot man in the mirror.

I found this video of channeled material to be of a blessing eye opener:


And Bashar really slapped some sense into me,


Having said all of this, the only reason you want to become popular, the only reaosn you want a girlfriend, the only reason you want to become a happy magnet is this: it acts as an excuse to feel better.

Everything in life is in perfect order. You'll discover whatever information you need to when it is most appropriate for you mate. I wish you all this absolute merry best :)


answered 25 Jan '13, 08:50

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I dig it! Thank you good sir!

(25 Jan '13, 11:59) Bronson

Great answers! I love Bashar

(25 Jan '13, 12:41) Symbiotx

Jesus continued: “There was a man who had two sons. 12 The younger one said to his father, ‘Father, give me my share of the estate.’ So he divided his property between them.

13 “Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living. 14 After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs. 16 He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything.

17 “When he came to his senses, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! 18 I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’ 20 So he got up and went to his father.

“But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him. 21 “The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’

22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. 23 Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let’s have a feast and celebrate. 24 For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.’ So they began to celebrate. 25 “Meanwhile, the older son was in the field. When he came near the house, he heard music and dancing. 26 So he called one of the servants and asked him what was going on. 27 ‘Your brother has come,’ he replied, ‘and your father has killed the fattened calf because he has him back safe and sound.’

28 “The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him. 29 But he answered his father, ‘Look! All these years I’ve been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. 30 But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!’

31 “‘My son,’ the father said, ‘you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. 32 But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.


What do you value number?or quality?

do not seek popularity.let there be light,Be the light that you can be,experience and enjoy.


answered 24 Jan '13, 11:05

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white tiger

edited 24 Jan '13, 11:06


That is so sensitive & right, experience creates good personality deserve to be popular!

(24 Jan '13, 12:01) r0la

"do not seek popularity, let there be light, Be the light" ... i like it

(24 Jan '13, 12:59) blubird two

Yes the people that are the most popular are the ones most in control. They come in and take over. Think of it as a conquest, you are going into enemy territory, your mission is to take control and win everyone over to your side.

The popular ones are outgoing in control and dominating. Think of a pack of wolves there are the alpha wolves, these are the ones dominating and in control.

Now if applied to humanity the ones most liked, the most popular ones are the ones that seem to have it all together. That they know what they want and go for it and anyone that gets in the way better get out of the way.

They tell the jokes, do the magic, pick on the friends, sing the karieoki or make fun of the ones singing, they are the hecklers, in other words they exhibit that they are the dominate ones at this party.


answered 25 Jan '13, 12:51

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Wade Casaldi

edited 25 Jan '13, 12:56

@Wade Casaldi according to you who is the most popular the prodigal son? Or the biggest one that went astray from the left hand to the right hand?

(25 Jan '13, 13:09) white tiger

That one is easy, the prodigal son until he lost all his money. He partied down every night, he was probably the center of attention at those parties.

Much like a movie star is today, until they lose everything of course. MC Hammer is a good example. While he was rich and famous, he had parties all the time and tons of friends! But.... Once he lost everything he was alone because popular doesn't necessarily mean you have friends but more so "followers" that call themselves your "friends."

(25 Jan '13, 14:12) Wade Casaldi

@Wade casildi You are not far from the kingdom.I will give what as not touched your mind,at the beguinning the prodigal son is in is father estate(right hand) he seek division(divide your wealth with me,give me my heritance.)the father gives it to him and he go to the left hand.he is popular and spent all is wealth this you have understand.then he seek unity(truth) again(the right hand)and go astray from the left hand to the right hand.this is the parabole of the prodigal son.

(25 Jan '13, 14:41) white tiger

Is the person who is popular the person the most in control?Since the one who is popular loose everything and becomes a slave to is own darkness that want to be praise according to outside factor?Is that person not in bondage?

(25 Jan '13, 15:25) white tiger
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Be better at something than others & start putting others down. Like making fun of them, ridiculing them, boasting about yourself & stuff.

Be the lion by fighting off the other lion(s). This is probably enough to attract buddies & pussies (what's the difference?).


answered 09 Feb '13, 13:42

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