Here are some Focus- Statements by Abraham for attracting a relationship. Hope they help :)
Here are from Focus-statements by Abraham for getting over the break-up of a romantic relationship to attract a new one.
I have included the specific negatives as well.
asked 15 Aug '13, 08:32
converted to question 15 Aug '13, 12:17
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I wanted to offer my two cents on the use of specific negatives here. I think they may be very important to include in this experiment, because we have to begin where we genuinely are. Otherwise, I'm thinking that to someone just beginning to work with these ideas, or who is feeling very low, this could feel like a list of affirmations, and may feel forced and false.
I used to be very brutal with myself about what I thought of as "the truth"; what I now see as beliefs that do not serve me, and their resulting circumstances. It can be difficult to make the first leap from a place like that.
It feels to me that perhaps the lower the vibration you begin with, the more gentle and incremental those first steps may need to be. Once you get going it gets easier - all of those good feelings do tend to snowball!
answered 24 Aug '13, 00:08
@Grace - The tricky thing about Specific Negatives is that they are...errr...Specific :) So that automatically cuts out a section of the "audience" when they come across them who feel that those particular specific statements don't apply to them.
For example, "My boss Joe is a pain in the neck" vs "My mother-in-law Pat is a pain in the posterior". Naturally those without Joes or Pats in their necks/posteriors are excluded from participating :)
To adequately cater for...
(24 Aug '13, 10:19) Stingray
@Grace - ...Specific Negative might then involve a great deal more complexity and I've noticed that people who are feeling bad in the moment don't have much tolerance for complexity :) Up to now, I'm suggesting that people just activate where they are more strongly since that's easy for most to do...I've noticed that most humans can complain endlessly about where they are if they don't like it :)
If you've thought of a better approach for dealing with Specific Negative, I'm all ears :)
(24 Aug '13, 10:23) Stingray
@Stingray - Hmmmmm I didn't think of that. Maybe keep them to only a very few, and narrow them down to just the universally recognizable Specific Negatives, as in your examples? Seems like that is kind of a hook to catch the attention while one is on a Rampage of Complaining. ;)
(24 Aug '13, 17:58) Grace
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IMO there is no reason for these type of focus statements. When I was in the dating scene I just got out and started meeting people. In my experience, people were attracted to me and I never had any problems meeting people because I have a positive self image and am a happy and content person. This disposition attracted all kinds of people to my social dating circle.
answered 17 Aug '13, 01:45
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@Satori - Thanks for stepping in with some useful statements. I think this statement is a biggie... :)
I really don't need to make every day an audition for a life partner
...when I stopped doing that and just started meeting the opposite sex just for the sake of enjoying meeting up and without a hidden agenda in mind, I started meeting much more compatible people with much more favorable outcomes.
@Stingray- Your welcome Stingray and may I say the Focus-Statements are a great idea that work very well! :)
Yes that statement you highlighted struck a chord with me to first time I read it. Thanks:)
@Satori - I think this answer deserves its own "Focus Statements: Attracting A Relationship" thread. Is it okay if I convert it to one ("convert to question"), assuming you don't already have the karma points to do so?
@Stingray- Yes Stingray, go ahead! If you want to edit feel free because I wasn't sure whether to include Specific Negatives or not, although I guess it may be a starting point for some? Thank you:)
@Satori - Now converted to a new thread :) Re: Specific Negatives - I don't really know, this is all a bit of an experiment so I'm uncertain myself if others are going to find the "Specific Negatives" useful or not, or whether those with the issue active in their lives are already "Specifically Negative" enough :) Probably need some feedback from people :)
@Satori @Stingray Stingray is spot on - that line jumped out at me when I read this. I was single for a year, always sizing up every man as a potential partner, looking for Mr Right - I only met my husband when I was planning to leave town and so relaxed and just had fun.