Since I have begun my spiritual journey, I have noticed a cycle that has emerged with it. When I first began to intentionally use the law of attraction it was extremely difficult for me. Once I started paying attention to my thoughts I realized just how negative I really was. My head was filled mostly with thoughts of fear and worry. I worried about everything and my worrying thoughts caused me to obsess with everything in my life that went wrong or even things that are not wrong yet, but could possibly go wrong. Along with the main thoughts of worry, I also had many thoughts of judgment, ridicule, jealousy and I noticed that I automatically focused on all the things that I did not like about every person and everything that surrounded me.

After many months of practice and a long upward struggle, I persevered. I would say that I have eliminated about 80% of my negative thoughts. I believe that I have reprogrammed my subconscious through constant correction on the correct way to think. Everytime I had a negative thought I would change it to see something positive in the situation at hand, and at this point, I will for the most part see the good in all things first.

After this struggle, things became pleasant...calm...peaceful, but oh so boring! I was content and bored, then content then bored with little moments of something better or excitement. Then after what seemed to be an eternity of boredom, I seemed to break through some barrier of some sort and I was happy, I felt really good, estatic in fact. I saw the world in a different light and appreciated every little detail. I started to attract things into my life like a magnet. Everything that was on the list of "things that I wanted" had started to appear one by one. Then one day the magic was gone :(

I lived back into the life of contentment...and boredom, with small bouts of worry...contentment..boredom, small bouts of irritability. Although most of the time I was still content...and bored, I started to notice that little things would bother me and my thinking was beginning to become negative. And even though I notice these negative thoughts and I am able to change them immediately, I am on the verge and as soon as something really unwanted occurs, the barrier breaks and the thoughts of worry start to flood in and I am powerless to stop them. So once again I become a magnet, only this time I have started to attract to me "all the things that I do not want".

Again, I started from the beginning. It was not as hard as the very beginning because I already know the correct way of thinking and it easy to find my way back, but still a struggle when I have let in those worrying thoughts. I find myself climbing up and down this ladder spending most of my time right in the middle.

How do I stay on top, and break this cycle?

Edit: 8/23/14

I was recently just reading "The Power of Now" by Eckhat Tolle and there was one paragraph that explained exactly what this cycle is and that the only way to break this cycle is to be truly enlightened. Since Tolle's own words are so perfect, I am just going to quote him rather then put it into my own words and possibly lose the essence of what is being said.

Love, joy, and peace are deep states of Being or rather three aspects of the state of inner connectedness with Being. As such, they have no opposite. This is because they arise from beyond the mind. Emotions, on the other hand, being part of the dualistic mind, are subject to the law of opposites. This simply means that you cannot have good without bad. So in the unenlightened, mind-identified condition, what is sometimes wrongly called joy is the usually short-lived pleasure side of the continuously alternating pain/pleasure cycle.

Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within. The very thing that gives you pleasure today will give you pain tomorrow, or it will leave you, so its absence will give you pain. And what is often referred to as love may be pleasurable and exciting for a while, but it is an addictive clinging, an extremely needy condition that can turn into its opposite at the flick of a switch. Many "love" relationships, after the initial euphoria has passed, actually oscillate between "love" and hate, attraction and attack.

Real love doesn't make you suffer. How could it? It doesn't suddenly turn into hate, nor does real joy turn into pain. As I said, even before you are enlightened - before you have freed yourself from your mind - you may get glimpses of true joy, true love, or of a deep inner peace, still but vibrantly alive. These are aspects of your true nature, which is usually obscured by the mind. Even within a "normal" addictive relationship, there can be moments when the presence of something more genuine, something incorruptible, can be felt. But they will only be glimpses, soon to be covered up again through mind interference.

It may then seem that you had something very precious and lost it, or your mind may convince you that it was all an illusion anyway. The truth is that it wasn't an illusion, and you cannot lose it. It is part of your natural state, which can be obscured but can never be destroyed by the mind. Even when the sky is heavily overcast, the sun hasn't disappeared. It's still there on the other side of the clouds.

asked 22 May '14, 14:39

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edited 26 Aug '14, 23:50

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Hello @Jess,

I know just how you feel. Exhausting, isn't it? I asked a similar question here about a year ago, and got some great answers that helped me out a lot.

Essentially, folks here explained to me that first of all, this isn't out of the ordinary. Being out of alignment with your Source, out of the Vortex feels awful, especially when you have been used to alignment, but it is easily remedied. Just use whatever method you can to get back in, and don't let it bother you. Everyone gets spit out of the Vortex at times, and it actually works to your advantage. That's when you send up your "rockets of desire", and when you get the opportunity to integrate and release any resistant feelings inside you that you hadn't been fully aware of. Those could hold back from even greater happiness and easy intentional manifestations, so the uncomfortable feelings they bring are actually very welcome and necessary.

Secondly, staying aligned means keeping up a daily practice of meditation, releasing resistance, and realignment. I'm sure you understand just what I mean if you have been here a while. :) The issue for me was that I was not strictly disciplined about this, and did not always do it every single day. I think it was our @releaser99 who said somewhere here that he is a bit nutty about it, keeping up his own routines regardless of anything else going on around him, making them, and constant awareness of the vibration he's offering the most important things in his life. I wholeheartedly agree. :) This can seem like a lot of effort, however as with most things, it does get easier the longer you keep it up. And when you think about it, what could be more important?

If I mess around with my own practices, letting myself get lazy, the unhappy cycle can start all over again, and I have to battle my way back, as you do. The thing is, those practices are so easy and fun, and feel so good, it's really kind of silly of me to get sloppy about it. It's not like it's hard, is it? and being out of alignment is a lot harder.

If your spiritual practice routine and feeling good your highest priorities, you can skip most of that. It has to be your first thought whenever something happens that you don't prefer to experience. I felt inspired to answer your question because I have experienced a couple of circumstances in the last few weeks that I think of as "body blows"... ouch. I have been keeping this advice in mind the whole time, and I know I will be ok. I'm pivoting on each resistant thought, and keeping up my daily spiritual practices, so that I know I will soon manifest happier circumstances. I basically see to it that the vibrations I am offering are the best possible for me at any given time. Nobody's perfect. :)

Sometimes, with Abraham-Hicks' advice to turn my thoughts "downstream", and the dreamlike nature of "reality" in mind, if I can do nothing else, I just sing:

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Try it! It helps me let go, and not take everything so darned seriously. :)

You didn't mention in your question what your practices are, but here are mine, and they work for me:

First thing in the morning, every day:

  1. Place Mat
  2. Focus Blocks
  3. Rampage of Appreciation
  4. Affirmations
  5. Abraham-Hicks Meditation for 15 minutes
  6. Balance my chakras (Ala @Jaianniah) :)

Love, Grace :)


answered 22 May '14, 19:30

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edited 22 May '14, 21:24


Ugh, it sure is exhausting at times, but as I read your answer I see that you are absolutely right! I have been slacking on meditating and getting into alignment. Its hard for me to meditate at night when my boyfriend is home because he already thinks that I am absolutely crazy! :) And I have been putting off waking up in the morning before my son because he wakes up around 6. But that is what I am going to have to do. Align first and everything will fall into place. Thank you so much!

(22 May '14, 21:58) Jess

@Jess - It does require commitment, but yes, getting up half an hour or so early is really worth the effort. You can get to the point where you treasure it as your personal quiet time, when everything is just all about you, and you don't have to explain anything, or worry about what anyone else thinks or wants from you. It's good. :)

(22 May '14, 23:30) Grace

I think the most insidious pitfall, the biggest warning label that should come on all of the practices listed above that I use, are that they are so simple, it is difficult to believe, and easy to forget, that they can make such a massive change in your life experience... but we have to actually do them for them to work! Good for you, @Jess! And happy meditating! :)

(22 May '14, 23:30) Grace

Hi Jess, you're not quite stable in those high vibrations and you feel that push/pull a little bit. it just takes a little practice and focus on feeling good now feeling good now feeling good now, making that your priority above EVERYTHING else in your life. You can stabilize in those high vibrations. I know because I've done it :) Once it's your default vibration you can't deviate from it. Your mind slips into observing contrast and it's as if you can't stay with it because you get knocked.....

(23 May '14, 14:16) Yes

.... away from negative feelings. It's as if you dip and your IB goes 'No, come back you belong with me!' and you feel that instantly and you're back in balance in that high vibration again. :) It's a FANTASTIC way to live. if I could bottle it I wouldn't even sell it I would give it away! You're nearly there, you just need to stabilize there. And, once you do you won't worry about your boyfriend thinking your crazy. You'll be thinking isn't it wonderful that he understands me completely!! :)

(23 May '14, 14:20) Yes

@yes that makes so much sense to me :) And I know that you are right when you say that I have to make feeling good my first priority. Everytime I reach those high vibrations I do stay there longer than the time before so I know I just need to stay with it and make that my first priority above all. Thanx!

(23 May '14, 16:21) Jess

@Grace, beautiful answer.

(23 Aug '14, 10:26) Olga Farber
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Your every thought is going to affect some aspect of your life. The problem you are dealing with seems clear to me. The link below should take you to a Google search results page with links to both explanations and solutions to what can be a seriously destructive problem if not dealt with. The problem is that YOU ARE OVER THINKING way too much. Take some time to consider the research to determine if this is something you need to address. Hope this helps



answered 23 May '14, 12:22

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edited 24 May '14, 02:09

To much or not enough? in this world and age where everything needs to be fast, where they say we are going to make your choice easy for you and after ward say it is not in the contract you should have take time to read the small print before making your choice.

(23 May '14, 12:37) white tiger

Yes, I definitely do over think which is the beginning to all my worrying.

(24 May '14, 08:21) Jess

If something comes back it is because it is not solved for you or when coming from someone else choice for that person it is not solve. for your self you can solve it by understanding the truth about it and making the proper choice. in the case of when it comes from someone else that someone else need to do the same thing for them self and it can take a while for them they will try to ignore or put on the side what bother them or even see someone else as the cause of their issue. rather then understand the truth about it and make their choice to solve the issue. in this world of struggle where everyone wants to pull everything to them self according to their desire and reject and hide everything that does not go with their desire. Many are deceive by them self or by other. and many cast the blame and the judgment on other and cannot accept their responsibility in the interaction with other and even if they are not responsible of how other make their choice they are still responsible on how they respond to those choice or how they let those choice affect them and in many case what they hate is what does not go with their desire. then is it their desire that is the cause of their pain and suffering? or is it that they make many choice only for their desire to the detriment of them self and other? then we could say that they are going in extreme desire and it brings the extreme opposite. they put barrier of their own choice and making for what they fear and do not understand even in their mind or heart they will put barrier and tell you I know how to think properly. they are very good at telling them self lie and believing them if you bring them to what they do not want to see and understand they will fight you saying there is nothing there, and eventually the barrier weaked and break and the prisoner that they did not want to see or understand is running or swimming to the surface of the water. for some it feels like climbing up or down a ladder. the prisoner want to say to the king why do you fear me and do not want to understand me. and the king wants to ignore it to not bother is desire so afraid to fall down off the top of is ladder.

is it the king or the prisoner that ask how to break this cycle?

Do you need to break the cycle or to fix it?

Or does the king or prisoner want to be set free?

Only the truth shall set you free.


answered 23 May '14, 11:54

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white tiger

Yes it is so easy to blame others for what goes wrong in your life. I have realized not too long ago that there were certain people that lowered my vibration on a daily basis. These two people were the ones who I spent the majority of my day with. I bet if there was someone new in my life that I would also spend the majority of my day with, they too would be responsible for lowering my vibration. So what did this tell me? It is me, and only me that is responsible for the way I feel.

(24 May '14, 08:29) Jess

jess, nature is cycles, we are a part of nature, resisting mentally may just give it more strength, go for awhile with what brings you there, perhaps other things come to mind or get active

(31 May '14, 20:23) fred

in this world that goes in extremes how can you not encounter cycle of positivity and negativity? best way go in the desert and seek the truth. you might never escape that cycle as long as you live in this world. simple example: man created money to serve them and now they work for money and they never have enough.

(01 Jun '14, 04:35) white tiger

they even kill steal and do all kind of wrong to them self and other and other do the same. even if nature go through some change like the season it keeps on growing did you ever see a tree trying to kill another tree or stealing is leaf to have more? they take the sunshine and the water and filter co2 that is what they feed themselves with and if you give to much it kills them. man is cutting tree to make money and they never have enough and tree is what filter the air for men to breath and-

(01 Jun '14, 15:07) white tiger

men is the one that as the choice and set value on things and yet they slave them self for money and there is still poor and sick people. where did men lost him self? in is dream of power and money. when men will find himself he will do what is just and stop going in extremes that does not serve him and will stop making iniquity for himself and other.

(01 Jun '14, 15:12) white tiger

white tiger, when ignorance has the rule of an earthly king it takes time to accept and stay true to what is if it can be seen. even that occurs in cycles, as our ego learns to accept yet more diversity and to see that we are all together in this learning experience

(04 Jun '14, 16:46) fred

@fred if there is ignorance it might be that some one refuse to see. or does not want other to see. Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. john 3:20 But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. John 3:21

(04 Jun '14, 19:20) white tiger

wt, he, for some reason, has strong beliefs that one sees what they can see or what is being looked for. it may take maturity or many hard knocks to shake the dust off the lenses so they accept more light

(05 Jun '14, 20:39) fred

@Fred people have free will and the choice and responsibility belong to them let them learn at their own pace. some seed grow in different place. also for you @fred on water unbroken one will find the living one (the water that I shall give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.) and over 40 days the two will become one and with out fear he can cross the last narrow door. in and out and find pasture.

(05 Jun '14, 23:13) white tiger
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It's your "long and upward STRUGGLE" that's perpetuating the up-down feeling. Further, a lot of us have the crazy notion that a positive must be matched by a negative when you can really give a positive or negative spin to anything. This tendency has us expecting something "bad" to follow the good and that perpetuates it. Balance is not about a good-bad match: it's about realizing that what is within (: focus :) corresponds to what is without (: emotions being the first manifestation :). Once you realize that everything you experience is your own choosing - IT IS ALL GOOD. Rather than trying to get "high" all the time, try to relax and don't sweat the small stuff that you create.


answered 24 Aug '14, 08:27

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Good answer @harsha, thank you!

(24 Aug '14, 09:28) Jess

The Bible (: although I don't take all of it :) says "Contentment with godliness is great gain". Contentment = Being at peace with where you are and I guess that means less/no struggling. Godliness = Use of your power to focus your attention and also the use of your imagination because these are the creators. Great Gain = Manifestation in accordance with your state of mind. It can be pleasant or unpleasant depending on what you sow but it is great gain just the same because you are Creator.

(24 Aug '14, 12:18) harsha
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