I live in an apartment house with four floors. I live in the third floor, the neighbors I'm referring to in the fourth. I moved into this apartment in September 2014 and my vibration was pretty low back then. Two months later, I began some vibrational work and managed to raise my vibration to pretty high vibes for almost every day. I feel really good most of the time which is a drastic change to how I've felt before. I think this is important for you to know in order to answer my question.
So, in the apartment above me lives a single mother with her 17-year-old son and they bother me a lot. The woman walks on her heels most of the time, so I can hear every step she takes, I can hear in which room she is, etc. The walls in my rooms really vibrate when she crosses her apartment... They also have loud and aggressive fights every day and my little son is sometimes scared because of this and starts to cry. I don't feel comfortable at home anymore, even though I try lots of different things to distract me (listening to music, deep breathing, focus blocks, distracting me...).
I've had also two discussions with this woman, but she isn't interested in changing her/their behavior. I've talked to my landlord and wanted to have a talk with her and him together but she didn't want to. So, I'm a little helpless...
They have a very negative vibration, her steps remind me of a ball of aggression sweeping above my head. It's really awful.
I don't want to feel like a victim and I really improved my reaction towards this noise, that means most of time I stay pretty calm but sometimes I'm very angry and frustrated. I'm also aware that I have some vibration going on that meets theirs, otherwise I wouldn't hear all of this, I know. I just don't know yet what else to do because I feel good most of the time.
Do you have some advice? Thank you very much.
asked 02 Mar '15, 14:09
I think the thing to remember is that all negative emotion eg feeling harrassed, is simply You having a disagreement with YOU. In other words, in this case, physical YOU is viewing the family upstairs in a negative way and inner-being YOU is seeing her in a positive way.
She and her son are SOURCE as are you, so you can only ever see yourself as good and positive and others as good and positive if you want to feel good. You can't view others through a negative prism and feel good.
Now that may quite a leap for you from your current vibrational stance. The best plan is to CLEAR your thoughts/beliefs rather than SOOTHE the negative thoughts. You need to clear up your usual vibrational thought pattern regarding her. Soothing will not work in the long term as nothing is changing because you are not changing your (negative) thoughts on this subject. You have to change to create the change in the behaviour from her. It's never about the other person. It's all coming from you.
If you clear up your vibration either she will change her behaviour to match your improved feeling or she will move out of your experience. You wouldn't be able to see her in your experience unless you're a vibrational match to her.
I would start a focus block, or if you want a more fast-changing experience clear with Manifesting Experiment 4.
Good luck :)
answered 02 Mar '15, 16:48
There is someone who I have felt does not treat me very well, often ignores me etc and I have spent at least a couple of years trying to work on my feelings towards her, to make myself forgive her for things she has done in the past and accept her for who she is, even see her as a gift, but her attitude towards me has not changed one bit. What is happening here then? :-) I know she still triggers a reaction in me when I see her, but I genuinely want to see her as a good person and have tried!
(02 Mar '15, 18:43) Inner Beauty
'I know she still triggers a reaction in me when I see her' Law of attraction will re-create on the basis of that reaction and feeling time and time again. Have you tried ME4 plus EFT to clear completely? I think that would help. Also, maybe think of a person in your mind that you love dearly, conjure that feeling of true appreciation & love that you feel for that person and try to use that person as a guide when you see the person that upsets you. Fake the feeling until it becomes natural.
(03 Mar '15, 06:33) Yes
Thanks @yes! I've tried EFT but not the Manifesting Experiment 4. Will do and also your second suggestion.
(03 Mar '15, 06:49) Inner Beauty
@Yes thank you very much for your clear answer. I am very motivated to clear my vibration so may I ask you, do you have a concrete idea for this? Should I send her my love (even if it's very difficult)? Or just thinking good of her in a general way?
(03 Mar '15, 16:25) spacemetalfantasy
@spacemetalfantasy @stingray has the perfect solution for you. Have a look at his answer to this question on IQ. http://www.inwardquest.com/questions/94933/whats-the-remedy-for-this-explosive-rage-against-my-wife This will work for you, and it if you commit to it completely, it will work fast! :)
(03 Mar '15, 17:37) Yes
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I went through a similar situation that lasted for at least three summers. I could not find harmony and all my neighbours seemed to conjure up to make my life very uncomfortable. People shouting, not respecting my space and my garden, dogs barking all day long and children and youngsters playing outside my window even at night etc etc... I knew I was judging them, I knew my energy level was low because of this but I couldn't find a way to raise it. It was of a great help to me to start thinking that "they were living their lives", not mine and I could send unconditional love to them as a group, including everybody: the people I liked and those I didn't like that much. It was a slow magical process: some people actually disappeared, they changed their habits, a new administrator set new rules for our private street and I got back the respect of those who were teasing me and yeah, I made new friends... Love is the only thing that works, loving understanding for these souls who are learning their lessons in their own way through Free will. We are powerful!
answered 03 Mar '15, 05:39
Thank you @Graziana, this really makes sense. Although it seems quite difficult right now, I want to start changing my feeling towards my neighbors. How did you manage to send unconditional love towards them even though they didn't respect you and your home?
(03 Mar '15, 16:45) spacemetalfantasy
A-H Daily quote makes a timely arrival ..as usual
answered 03 Mar '15, 04:19
Thank you @ursixx, this really is true and I am ready to change.
(03 Mar '15, 16:45) spacemetalfantasy
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