I was listening to Kevin Trudeau and he phrased the Law of Attraction in these simple terms: You get what you think about the most and with the most intensity, except for those things you don't believe you can get, because when you think about them your doubt is a signal to keep the thing away from you.
The advice he (and others) give to build trust is very general and in my opinion, extremely flawed. The advice is to start with something you believe you can get and build faith in the law. Well, the BIG flaw in that is this, if you already believe you can get something, getting it won't do anything to shift your expectations of what is and is not possible, unless that puts you in another context, which actually doesn't shift what is possible so much as it shifts how close and real the thing feels to you (before the Ferrari was possible but distant because there were too many steps between you and it, now you can just go and buy one).
So I'm not sure how to deal with doubt other than through analysis and observation. I've run into this problem of doubt making focus on what I want feel bad a lot and I haven't found a good, effective way to deal with it. My life has been filled with negativity and a sense of powerlessness/apathy because of this. When I say "feel bad" what I mean is simply this: I will think about what I want and feel good, depending on where I am at the time it can feel euphoric or it can feel like relief or whatever, the point is that it's a pleasant feeling, I want to keep thinking about what I want. Doubt then starts taking stabs at this good feeling, which hurt and make it contract, like an animal trying to make itself small. Eventually the good feeling will contract to nothing (as will the pain), as if my desire had finally died. If I struggle trying to focus on positive beliefs, the desire will not die as fast but there will be more pain, the doubt will just keep stabbing at me saying those positive beliefs are not real.
I phrased the question with great care. If we replaced "taller" with "stronger", one way (and there are others) to answer would be to lift weights (which is just a way of issuing the command to grow stronger in a way you know the body will hear), eat properly and observe how the body of others responds to diet and exercise (read about it, listen to them, watch videos about them, etc), while also observing your own body and how it changes through time. I've tried doing that with height but there are just no suitable models.
For me the way to develop trust is to begin with the small things. Like parking places.
I would drive someplace to shop. The parking lot is crowded. In the past I had decided, "it is not worth it" and go somewhere else. Then I thought, "I only need one parking place" and I found one, near the business. After a while I began to expect a parking place near the business.
And now, there always is one!
Expanding on this, the checkout line I get in always moves quickly, or they open another checkout lane beside me. The very popular restaurant has that parking place and a table available for me, and I get fast service from the waitperson and the kitchen.
I was amazed that the above was happening so easily and often. But now I just expect it and it gets even better. I TRUST that these things will happen!
That is how I begin to build trust. From this base I expect things to work out easily for me, and they do! I am surprised if they don't.
Hoping becomes amazement and amazement becomes trust. I am having some amazing manifestations. Spectacular manifestations!
BUT, yeah, I sometimes have doubts. I decide that I MUST make something happen, and I can get so caught up in the details that it fails. I let go and think about the small things, like parking places, like the incredible beauty around me and the Universe answers my "bigger" questions in ways I never possibly could have personally created.
Do I drive the car? Not really. I decide where I want to go, and the car takes me there. I remember the small things the Universe sends me without fail and the big things fall into place.
There are so many instances where it works. Here is one example, I have 22 acres of land in a rural area. When land prices were high, I put up a sign for sale. Then the price dropped, so the land was just sitting there. About 6 acres are in a "flood zone" and considered "unbuildable". It has not flooded in 75 years, but that is how it is described on the topological map. I like full disclosure, so I put this topo map on my for sale sign. The sign has been up for 6 years.
Normally, thinking about the land slightly depressed me. My wife and I went out to visit the land and we had very good feelings about the beauty and peace.
The next day we received a phone call from two people who were standing on the property, by the sign. They asked how much to rent the land. I threw out the figure of $1,000 a month. They agreed. We drove out to meet them. They signed a lease and gave me $2,000 in cash. First month's rent and a deposit.
Their interest was in making an organic garden in the 6 acre flood plain and using the rest of the land for cattle, goats and other farm animals. The "flood plain" held especially rich soil that was perfect for gardening. The unbuildable "detriment" was what had attracted them!
Well, maybe, it was our good thoughts about the land and the beauty that allowed the Universe to send them to us.
That is what works for us.
I like the idea that small hopes (parking places) turn into amazement (that we always find a parking place) turn into expectation (that we unquestionably will have that parking place), and that expectation helps build a base of larger manifestations.
The Vortex, for me, is like a stair. As we climb that first step with the confidence that expectation has given us, the next step is easier. Sometimes I have to back down a step to the firm ground of expectation, but when I do, the next step becomes easier.
However it is hard (for me) to look at the top stair and say, "I am going to take a running jump and land there!" But as I climb this stair, as Hope becomes amazement (and gratitude) becomes expectation (and expectation becomes a more powerful belief system) the joy and manifestations expand geometrically.
Thanks, @flowsurfer for asking this question and helping me remember that I needed to back down a stair step where I have the firm foundation of expectation, of trust, to take another step upward.
Success is a state of Mind.
EDITED: @flowsurfer - It seems to me that you are asking a valid question. My answer has to do with your level of trust in Source to give you what you want. I cannot answer from your perspective, so I will answer from how it works for me.
I build trust by taking steps, like my stairs analogy. It is easier for me to take a small step up, manifesting parking places - this is an example, pick something in your life that is easy, and build from there.
If you begin running into doubt, back down a step and find your firm, foundational belief-supported ground. Then try it again from that place of confidence.
This is foundational. Build your foundations and progress is easier. Build on sand and you will, by definition, have doubt. Build from your foundational beliefs and you can achieve greater and greater accomplishments.
You will also find that after a few firm, secure steps, you will find an elevator.
It seems to me that you want to take a flying leap to the top of the stairs. For me this would be very difficult.
It's hard by the yard, but it's a cinch by the inch!
Is being taller what you actually want? To bring in what you really want, make sure it's what you're asking for. Does being taller really serve you, or is it that you think being taller will permit you to do something else that you really want? Why ask for tools to build a house, when you can just have the house that's already built? Unless, of course, you are wanting to enjoy the experience of building a house. In that case, go right ahead, enjoy it, and take action towards that goal. Measure yourself against a wall, be excited about how much taller you're getting already.
Doubt is not an enemy! Doubt is a reminder that you have a belief that says what you're TRYING to believe isn't going to work, because you actually don't believe it 100%. When you feel doubt, don't suppress it. Ask yourself questions to discover why you don't believe it will, or what you believe that's preventing you from accepting that it is possible. Or, adjust what you're asking for to a level that you can believe without doubt. If you're feeling doubtful about asking for that million dollars, why not try $20. That will probably be a comfortable starting point, and when you achieve it, the excitement will build and you'll feel comfortable with a higher amount.
answered 21 Mar '13, 15:00
I agree start small and build. Look at the things you couldn't do when you were a kid. Now as an adult you can do whatever you want. It's time to get there in your belief.
I ask for the gift of clairvoyance, I started small, like what color car would come next. This eventually led to what playing card was I holding with eyes closed. I have enough hits I call myself clairvoyant. It's a work in progress, belief and meditation.
Some days are better them others. But there was a time I though I would not be able to have any of it. Now I know that is false. There are no limits. Don't forget to be grateful for what you have. This it the first step to power. You may not be able to move on without it.
answered 21 Mar '13, 13:28
Hello again flowsurfer,
on this question i would start by following the advice of shelby collinge of perception university. Briefly she says that "it's your why that attracts", it's the feeling of having those things that you're searching for.
She advises that to start with make a list of 25 reasons why you want the things that you want. It's important to come up with 25 and it's doubly important to feel the feelings as you're writing and thinking. It's these very feelings that will begin to sweep through your body that will begin to attract and magnetize what you want, to you.
Remember it's the feeling that gets the blessing. Think about having money, better health, an ideal body, ideal relationships in every area of your life, a booming career, houses, cars, vacations, outfits.
All of it
Ref. shelby collinge, thought expert, limitless possibilities, inc ;
update 22nd march 2013
How can i know that i have entire control over my life?
By experience and experience leads to belief and belief leads to knowing. Experience is gained by awareness, that is, noting synchronicities, dreams, intuitions, ideas ... anytime something attracts your attention, it's your inner world mirroring your outer physical world. Consider this; all energies exist everywhere all the time, think of "emptyness", now whenever our inner world transmits something to us it prods us that we perceive as something that attracts our attention. In other words we begin to perceive the synchronicities between the inner and outer worlds, we begin to "look" in two opposite directions at the same time, we begin to perceive the action/reaction mechanism between the "logical" physical world and the "illogical" invisible world. With experience the reaction time between these synchronicities reduces more and more until they coincide.
How do i learn to control myself?
There's a large reserve of energy between the visible and invisible that's why we can feel fear of losing control. Think of it as a garden, if we let it get overgrown with plants there would be no place for us to stroll around, so we must create a controlled pathway through the undergrowth for ourselves. So the solution is to create a pathway, a flow path, in other words consciously create a portal between the visible and invisible worlds that we can control with mathematical precision and through which energy flows. This can be done using sacred geometry
A useful flow portal is the hexagon with six layers, it acts as an effective variable flow shield detector and regulates the energies until the 7th level after which there is no longer any need for it.
here's a drawing
For the first time ever on this forum ive edited my answer......it was totally in appropriate.
Weve someone on this forum who seems to believe that his height ( or perceived lack of it) is non negotiable, a problem and something that simply isnt going to be tolerated.
Ive seen the answers listed, and my fairly mild answer to this question too.
Im ashamed of this forum, im ashamed of the people who answered. im ashamed of Barry, and Simon Templeton...but more than that im ashamed of myself.
Theres a very confused seeker here who for some reason thinks its perfectly REASONABLE to expect that his belief system will quickly make him taller. Moreover he has said he will accept no debate on this and that it is non negotiable.
100 % this is not open to debate.
No one has informed Flowsurfer that this is not only "not an option"...but it is his only option!
Flowsurfer has voiced the opinion that this isnt just a case of changeing his race but " MERELY " OF changing something as small and insignificant as physical height!!
Ive let you down flowsurfer... i should have told you that you are deluding yourself that you cant gain an inch of height by any metaphysical or spiritual means. Im sorry... im so sorry.
Im thankfull i dont run this forum... i would be even more pissed off with myself.
Flowsurfer PLEASE PLEASE either get used to your height, OR seek PROFESSIONAL help in your reaction to it. You can spend a lifetime reading Neville, Vadim ,Christ or god knows what, but you will leave this planet and reality the same height as you are now.
Im not in any way against you my friend....but im not gonna bullshit you
So do THT then say, "I am the perfect height for me."
Answer yourself, "Why do I want to be taller?" Then, when you get answer, ask, "Why is that so great?" and then for that answer, "Why is that so great?" until you get to the real meat of the matter. Also ask, "What is so wrong about being short?" When you get an answer, ask, "What is so wrong with that?" and when you get an answer to that, ask, "What is so wrong with that?" untill you get to the real meat of the matter. Then take those final points and do THT and whatever other technique that will help you, visualization, affirmations, EZDS, or mix it up and do several. If you want to visualize yourself taller, try that. But ultimately, you just want to be happy with your height.
answered 25 Mar '13, 08:21
When I read I often see symbols, metaphors, similarities & synchronicity. The wish to be taller is a euphemism for suicide by hanging.
This is based off of a rather humorous scene in the anime "Sayonara Zetsubou Sensei," Where the title character, literally named "Despair" in Japanese, tries to hang himself before a cheerful and exceedingly optimistic girl by the name of "Kafuka Fuura," who states that her mother, father and many people in her family have tried to "Make themselves taller."
"No one would dare kill themselves on such a nice spring day! You're just making yourself taller!"
Its springtime flowsurfer; put your dancing shoes on and dance. @CalonLan will teach you the steps. He's a street dancer from way back.
Sayonara, Zetsubou-Sensei (さよなら絶望先生 Sayonara Zetsubō Sensei?, literally means "Goodbye, Mr. Despair". It is a comedy about a teacher who takes all aspects of life, word and culture in the most negative light possible.
Sayonara, Zetsubou-Sensei revolves around a very pessimistic high school teacher named Nozomu Itoshiki who, at the very beginning of the series, tries to hang himself on a sakura tree. He is saved by an extremely optimistic student known only as Kafuka Fuura (though in her effort to save his life, she almost kills him). She explains to him that it is simply unimaginable that he would hang himself on such a nice day, especially in front of such beautiful trees. (I love beauty; so sensual)
@MontyRiviera Maybe you will appreciate this. Plot Summary: Itoshiki Nozomu is the world's most negative person. To his way of thinking, there is no hope or meaning in this existence. Even the three kanji of his name become the two-kanji word zetsubou, "despair", when compressed. What an ironic twist of fate, then, that he becomes teacher to a class containing his precise opposite, the invincibly positive-minded Fuura Kafuka.
We may think of @flowsurfer as the student but is flow the student or is he the teacher, Monty? Great teachers know they are still 'the student' or as one of my fav IQ teachers, past, present & future (blu/ru bis/true bliss) is fond of saying it's "the law of duality.
or you could just wear Bono boots (U2) flow.
I also don't think I've said anything flow doesn't already know himself. I trust both "God" & my higher 'source', the God in me & I try to live in the NOW.
This answer is marked "community wiki".
If you are seeing this message then the Inward Quest system has noticed that your web browser is behaving in an unusual way and is now blocking your active participation in this site for security reasons. As a result, among other things, you may find that you are unable to answer any questions or leave any comments. Unusual browser behavior is often caused by add-ons (ad-blocking, privacy etc) that interfere with the operation of our website. If you have installed these kinds of add-ons, we suggest you disable them for this website