As I learn about more about reality creation and the Law of Attraction, I feel less motivated to improve myself. To become a master at reality creation, one of the approaches would be to get into the "vortex" or to reach for the best feeling emotions whenever possible. An alternative to living life would be to just let life cruise on its own, by just trying to stay positive and neutral as much as possible.

Even as I adopt the 2nd approach of letting life cruise on its own, I feel less motivated to do things that would improve myself because I feel there is no need to do so. Here are some examples:

1) I might want to pick up a new skill such as programming, thinking that it will get me a better job with a better pay. But then I think of reality creation and go "hmmm..why go through all that trouble? Staying positive and just let life cruise on its own is better."

2) I might have the slight urge to join speed dating events or take up a new hobby in order to meet new friends or more people of the opposite gender. But then I think of reality creation and go "hmmm..the people whom are supposed to be in my life will somehow be in my life, I don't need to go to all that trouble."

How can I overcome this? Well, I guess there's nothing wrong with such an approach to life, but I was wondering also whether anyone else has this problem.

asked 15 Sep '16, 11:13

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I would ask myself it the actions that you've mentioned, like learning a new skill or join speed dating, make me feel excited or do I just feel obligated to do so?

If you feel obligated to do them, then the action probably isn't inspired and won't give you satisfaction.

If, on the other hand, you want to do it and can't wait to begin, the the action is inspired and is going to bring you what you want.

And something else that I would ask myself would be: Is this really what I want from life? Or are there other things that I would enjoy more? In my experience, the things that I want to do the most are the ones that are easy and fun to do. I don't even think about doing them or not doing them, as I'm so eager to get them done, so that this question never arises.

So, what is it that you really, really want?


answered 16 Sep '16, 06:24

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edited 16 Sep '16, 06:25


@spacemetalfantasy Well, I don't know the answer to your questions right now. But as I was playing with the "Random question" function at the top right hand of this page, I came across this question: which seems to be where I am at the moment. Interesting !

(16 Sep '16, 11:52) kakaboo

@kakaboo - I hope my answer has somewhat helped you. I'm sure you will figure this out very soon :)

(18 Sep '16, 07:16) spacemetalfantasy

So, three things:

1. You don't have to overcome anything. You are right, if something is meant to happen, it will happen. If your higher self has a plan for you, then they will find a way of getting it done. However, if your thoughts predominantly involve complaint, lack, criticism, anger, etc, then the events that will lead you from A to B will likely be traumatic. If on the other hand your thoughts are mostly neutral and relaxed, your are likely to encounter a series of neutral or happy coincidences on the journey from A to B.

2. If I have learned one thing from my years of torment, it is this: forget all about manifestation and simply go with the flow with an open and relaxed mind, and everything will be taken care of. Have faith that nothing truly 'bad' will happen to you if you simply follow the path of least resistance from moment to moment. You may have to probe the various possibilities in front of you to work out which is the path of least resistance, but once you have worked that out, simply let yourself go. There is no need to struggle, fight, argue, resist, oppose. There is no 'right' and 'wrong'. There is no 'fair', 'unfair', 'just' or 'unjust'. There is only the flow. Trust the flow.

3. Finally, you don't strive to feel good so you can get your manifestations. At least I don't, not any more. It's a trap. You strive to feel good because you want no more drama in your life, no more lurching from crisis to crisis - because you have had enough. I just want my life to be easy, peaceful, completely in control, full of joy and excitement. I know of no better way than to constantly guide my thoughts to feel better. That's the only 'work' I do. Manifestation is the by-product of all this - not the primary goal.

PS. You can use your current lethargy to catapult you into a habit of going with the flow. Usually it's difficult for highly action- and goal-oriented people to take the path of least resistance, so an intermediate step becomes necessary. A period with a predominant feeling of lethargy / apathy is that intermediate step, before you can make it a habit to joyfully go with the flow.


answered 15 Sep '16, 11:47

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edited 16 Sep '16, 13:19


@cod2 Hey mate, why keep editing your answers ? They are great as it is :)

(16 Sep '16, 11:49) kakaboo

@cod2 I agree with @kakaboo as well. It seemed your original answer really came from the heart and was quite inspiring.

(16 Sep '16, 13:00) Cory

Thanks both. I suddenly had a thought that I probably wasn't making sense, as I was speaking from my own personal experience, which may not be everyone else's experience... OK, I'll reinstate the old version if I can figure out how to :-)

(16 Sep '16, 13:16) cod2
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@releaser99 has said before on this website (I can't find where exactly at the moment) that there are three vibrational phases that we all move in and out of throughout life...

  1. The Specific Negative phase, where you are dominantly in extreme pain and all you want is relief.
  2. The General phase, where you are dominantly bored, content or just apathetic (i.e. emotionally disconnected) about life.
  3. The Specific Positive phase, where you are dominantly experiencing high states of passion, joy and excitement.

With that said, let me rephrase your question...

What can I do to move from my current "General" phase of life and into the "Specific Positive" phase of life?

Making that phase transition is actually quite simple :)

Similar to how a rocket launches into space, all you have to do is generate enough acceleration at the start to reach an escape velocity, and then it's easy cruising from there.

In non-rocket-science terms, all you need is a few consecutive days of positive momentum and you'll naturally notice that habitual apathetic pull fade away. Soon you'll just be ecstatic, joyful, and passionate by default, and your physical reality will have to reflect that dominant vibration :)

You'll find below several practical things you can do right now to get that positive momentum going (these are the exact things I'd do if I were in your shoes). I've listed easier and more effective things first.

Practical Thing #1

Ask yourself what emotion you feel when you achieve a desire that you are trying to deliberately attain. I don't mean the emotions you get from the desire itself, but the satisfaction you get from having deliberately attained it.

Here's a quick exercise you can do to identify that feeling...

Let's say you have the following goal list:

  • Get a job with 10% higher pay
  • Lose 10 pounds
  • Have a steady relationship
  • ...

And let's assume that you achieved the first two things. See yourself crossing those two things off your list, you've got them! You're really making progress in life aren't you? You can really sense the gears turning, the momentum building, and that you're on your way to achieving more things on your goal list.

Now stop. What emotion do you feel within yourself? For me, it's a sense of achievement; that's the feeling I get every time I achieve a goal. The feeling you get may be different.

Now take this feeling and practice it every day. You'll be blown away by how quickly you'll see a massive change in both your physical and vibrational attitude toward life.

Practical Thing #2


Practical Thing #3

Write tons and tons and TONS of manifesting box requests... about things you don't really want :)

Let me explain.

I don't really want a vacation to Bali. Sure, the island looks really pretty and the resorts there treat you very nicely, but I don't really want it, it's just a nice-to-have.

I don't really want to jump higher. Sure, jumping higher would make me better in some of the sports I play, and it might be cool to show friends how high I can jump, but it's just a nice-to-have.

I don't really want to have my house repainted. Sure, it would make my house look cleaner and more vibrant, but it's just a nice-to-have.

There are THOUSANDS of things I don't really want, but would still be nice to have. I could start drafting up tens of requests in the next half hour alone (remember, you don't need to complete writing a request all at once, you can just start off with "I want a vacation in Bali" and come back to it later).

So, get some paper / start a word document / etc., and just start writing about anything and everything that you don't really want.

Practical Thing #4

Try this exercise by Stingray.

Practical Thing #5

Get yourself a motivational book like "Awaken the Giant Within" by Anthony Robbins, or "The Motivation Manifesto" by Brendon Burchard. Those are two random examples... any motivational book, movie, or YouTube video works for this.

Now consume that motivational content. You'll soon find yourself pulsing with motivational energy that will inspire you to take action.

Now take that motivational energy and channel it into hobbies and any other physical activity that you know will make you feel good.

Push that motivational energy into things like swimming, exercising, cooking, studying Abraham, watching comedy, picking up that book you've been meaning to read, playing that instrument that's been catching dust... make a list of all these wonderful things, and every time you take action on any one of them (even if it's a tiny bit of action), put a check mark beside that item.

When you feel your action-taking energy dwindling (not because you're sleepy, but because that apathy is creeping back in), that's the time to go back to that motivational book / video and rekindle that energy... and then go back to having fun with your hobbies :)

This is a powerful way to break out of that negative apathetic feedback loop, and into a positive passionate feedback loop.

Practical Thing #6

Take a look at Manifesting Experiment 3, and then take one of your many desires and apply that manifesting experiment to it.

Side-note: it's important to understand that everything comes down to action... even thinking a better-feeling thought is actually taking an action. Abraham advise against taking misaligned physical action... but the act of getting aligned first (which Abraham recommend) is an action in and of itself!

So there is nothing wrong with building a habit of taking action within yourself... just avoid using physical action as a means of overcoming a negative state of being. Use action to harmonize your vibration, and then everything else will follow.

Practical Thing #7

Get your hands on some Paraliminals, and use them to help bootstrap your energy, which you can then invest in some of the other techniques listed here.

Practical Thing #8

Take a deep breath.

Actually, let me rewrite that: open your mouth and take a rrreeeeeaaaalllllyyyyy ddddeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeppppppp breath.

Now hold all that air in for as long as you possibly can.

A little longer.

Keep going. (Just don't pass out :-) )

When you feel like your lungs are about to explode, open your mouth and let out all that air out.

If you did this correctly, you'll feel winded and you'll find yourself panting right after you let go of that breath.

You can hold multiple deep breaths in one sitting, if you wish (give yourself a bit of a break between each one!). Do this exercise two or three times throughout the day (morning, afternoon, evening).

Practical Thing #9

Read random Wikipedia articles. Stay on an article for as long as you feel interested in it, and when you lose interest, move onto a new random article.

You can use the Random Article link on the homepage of Wikipedia to do this.

I personally like to cycle through random featured articles (the quality of content of those articles is superior). You can use the following link to get a random featured article:

You'll eventually run into an article that really piques your interest, and might inspire you to take actions like search things in Google or click through to other Wikipedia articles. Just go with the flow and enjoy that feeling of interest and passion :)

Additionally, doing this is a great way to discover things you don't really want, and hobbies you never knew you had, which you can then feed into Practical Thing #3 and Practical Thing #5 respectively.

Hopefully you get something valuable out of those practical plans of action! You don't need to do all of them. I'd just start with one or two (remember, the more effective things are listed earlier on).

Commit to doing at least one of those things today, even if you do it for just a short period of time. Taking the first step of the journey gets you 90% of the way there :)

Keep us posted on how things work out! Sharing your progress publicly (if you're comfortable in doing so) will make it more likely for you to follow through, and might also convince others in a similar situation to get started as well :)


answered 16 Sep '16, 16:41

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edited 16 Sep '16, 20:38

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@WeRadiateBeauty Interestingly enough, I had came across Releaser99's answer which you were talking about just yesterday when I just felt like cleaning up my "LOA favourites links". I have edited it into the post. But are you sure that I am in a place of "emotional disconnect" just because I said I thought I was in a comment? And the format of this answer is so similar to a Stingray one in another question only a few hours ago :)

(16 Sep '16, 20:41) kakaboo

@kakaboo - I have edited it into the post. Thanks! This is exactly what I was hoping for :)

But are you sure that I am in a place of "emotional disconnect" just because I said I thought I was in a comment?

I actually read your question (and was inspired to an answer) before you made that comment, so your "emotional disconnect" bit had very little influence on what I've written. However, I've experienced the same symptoms you've described in your question, and I would certainly label it...

(17 Sep '16, 02:08) WeRadiateBeauty

... as an "apathetic" state of mind. If it wasn't, instead of thinking "hmmm..the people whom are supposed to be in my life will somehow be in my life, I don't need to go to all that trouble." you'd be thinking thoughts like, "It's so nice to laugh with friends! It's so fun to organize dates to places I haven't visited before! I'm so eager to try new foods and experience new cultures!"

At the end of the day, I can't be 100% sure if you are in a place of emotional disconnect, only...

(17 Sep '16, 02:19) WeRadiateBeauty

... you can. The best I can do is give an inspired answer. However, you can apply some of those practical tips and see for yourself whether they remedy your situation or not :)

And the format of this answer is so similar to a Stingray one in another question only a few hours ago :)

Guilty as charged! :) I read Stingray's answer and liked his use of horizontal rules to chunk up the text, which I ended up mimicking in this answer (and I'm glad I did!). For the content of my answer...

(17 Sep '16, 02:27) WeRadiateBeauty

... I pretty much openly admitted to copying @releaser99 right from the get-go, and everything else is mostly just a rehash of things @Stingray has already said elsewhere. Even though this is going to seriously cut into my profits, I'm going to have to pay them both royalties on everything I make off this answer :)

(17 Sep '16, 02:32) WeRadiateBeauty

@WeRadiateBeauty - "copying releaser99" - If one looks closely at history, it becomes blindingly obvious that every new (or great) idea is just an old idea with a different perspective. But what makes it different (or great) is just a change in perspective. And personally, I really enjoy your different angle on these topics. One of the greatest "copycats" of our time even claims that "Good artists copy, great artists steal"

(17 Sep '16, 22:28) releaser99

@releaser99 - "just a change in perspective" - So true! The entire universe is literally just the constant evolution of perspectives. That's what contrast is all about (contrast just means variety, but many people seem to use it interchangeably with negative experience lol). If it weren't for perspectives, All-That-Is would just be some ethereal presence in infinite space :)

(02 Oct '16, 17:32) WeRadiateBeauty
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