I have used a lot of other stuff over the years Hypnosis, meditation, eft, FEFT, focus blocks, subliminals, pstec, mind movies, visualization....But I am still in the same place.
I just would like some guidance to point me in the right direction.
So as of a few days I decided do just stop everything, as it is obviously not helping me. And I decided to write a lot of my negative thoughts that are coming up as of lately.
Now I could write more and after I can do things to feel better about myself and life in general, but that still has not helped me improve my life, especially as I don't know what action to take and because of fear, lack of confidence etc.
I was going to go back to basics and start with affirmations. So I wanted to write down my negatives to convert them into positives. I just want to know what I should work on first, what do you think? I have soooo much....
Here are some of my negative thoughts....
Have no job I enjoy and I am proud of.
I have no money to do the things I want to do.
I have no money to move out of my parents house.
I have no friends that I hang out with and have fun with.
I am married to and live with a woman that I no longer want to be with (as her with me)
I don't feel confident enough to get a job, I have never done before.
I don't want to fail and be seen as a failure.
I don't want to be a no body.
I don't want a sh job for sh pay.
I have nothing great to offer to get a decent well paid job.
I don't have any worthy qualifications.
I don't want to wait and study for years without money.
I can't find a job I like.
Most jobs require experience or qualifications.
I am a hermit, no one can see I am a failure if I am a hermit.
I can't be bothered to do anything.
It is so much easier to not do anything.
I can't compete anyway so why bother even trying.
I have been college twice and I quit both times, I can't go back and do that again and waste my life away even more then I already have.
I want new friends but I find it more enjoyable being on my own.
Socialising and making friends seems like hard work, I can't be bothered, especially when I enjoy being on my own. Why pretend to be someone I am not?
Earning money involves getting out there and being with and socializing with other people and I don't want to do that.
I don't care about other people.
Why would anyone want to help me, I have not done anything deserving of help.
I am in debt and it is all my fault.
I have been stuck for many years.
I have not got better with all these self-help products, the only person that has, is the person I gave my money to.
Just feeling good does not change my life, it just makes me feel happy with where I am at for a little while. I don't know what to do.
Not a lot interests me.
I don't like people knowing my business.
I feel vulnerable people knowing my weaknesses, especially if I know them personally.
When I am open and vulnerable people can take advantage of me, judge me and manipulate me and knock me down,
and try to control me for their own personal agenda.
I don't care about people so why should they care about me? Everyone has their own personal agenda.
I start certain things and stop after 2-3 weeks because I get bored.
I don't know where to start.
I can't believe I have wasted money on stuff that has never actually helped me, I have learned my lesson and I will never do it again, ever.
I don't know what to do.
....Any new ideas?
asked 02 Feb '15, 11:45
They often say that the people around you are a reflection of yourself, and ALI6NMENT you are like a magnified mirror of myself.
I felt this way in the past but not as negative as you are feeling right now. The thing you're right about is that you should take a break from all these first as everything will just come across as blah, blah, blah to you at this time. You just need a place to rant, and you managed to do it, let your energy all out.
After which, you can take a look at this answer regarding your situation right now. I came across this answer a lot of times in the past but only really noticed about the Bashar "test" part, but it's the genuine acceptance part that is important for you at this moment.. If you are really able to just accept that it's ok to be where you are right now, no matter how negative or how bad your situation is at the moment, you will be able to figure out the next step to take. Keep repeating to yourself "It's ok to be where I am right now and things are always working out for me."
Regarding the part where you claimed you did a lot of manifestation stuff over the years, did you really feel better after doing those stuff? If not, you are merely just going through the actions and motions and it is not surprising why you feel like nothing has changed. The first few months or even years I did focus blocks, I was merely going through the motion and typing what I "thought" was the correct sentence.. it was only after I started meditating did I manage to "feel" my emotions a bit more, and even now I can't still "feel" them completely and properly yet. If you have really done the techniques the correct way, you will definitely feel some kind of positive shift within you, even if a little and even if your physical reality does not reflect that yet. You would be able to look back and at least say, Hey, I think I've become a little more positive than before, like what Kriegerd said has happened to him.
Lastly, it's impossible to clean up everything in your life because the Universe will just give you more and more things to clean up.. and if you really don't know where to start since your list is so huge and long.. why not try to think of the things you can appreciate in life or any other happy experiences you have had before? No matter how old or how much you have been through, you definitely would have at least laughed or smiled once in your life!
answered 03 Feb '15, 09:40
Last September I started listing things like that and doing The Work on them. The first ten minutes I sat down I had about 40 statements, and each time I opened the file I added at least 4 or 5 more.
Not only that, but after doing 1, 3 or 4 more would pop into mind.
My first thought was equal to yours.
The first couple of days I sat down and spent a lot of time on them. I knew that I couldn't keep up the pace. I could decide to torture myself with that or relax and take it easy.
I decided to do at least 3 statements a day. If I felt like it I could do more, but 3 were the minimum. If more statements came up throughout the day it didn't matter, I would just add them to my list. I knew that I was going to get to them at some point. Just adding a thought to the list made me feel a bit of relief because I knew that it was going to be taken care of, even if it took a couple of days to get there.
I would scan the list from time to time and reorganize the statements according to my perceived priority.
Using this structure allowed me to not stress about it. It didn't matter how big the list could get, I was moving forward. It would be like a marathon, if you don't stop putting your foot in front of the other, you'll get there.
I suggest you take a look at ME-4 or ME-5. It's a really methodical approach to clearing things up. Also, try to not get anxious by the amount of stuff, be consistent and move forward a little bit each day.
Hope it helps!. All the best.
answered 02 Feb '15, 22:57
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